How to overcome this with guys?

Today this really attractive guy kept looking at me while I was walking...he was working on a house. I think he looked at me 3 times, and all 3 times, I looked back down. I get SUPER self conscious and just dont feel confident. I thought, well even if I know I need to lose 25 pounds, he STILL looked, and maybe wasnt thinking of my insecurities. I felt nice though , in those moments that he looked. 🌺 I just want to feel I can smile at a guy and NOT look away. I guess its because I feel Im not whole, that I am not enough... like, they may see my outer appearance, but dont know the anxiety ridden Me, so I look down. Any tips on How I can look up and feel good about me, despite these flaw/issues???🙁

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HootyTheNightOwl

This is normal...

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@HootyTheNightOwl But, the only not normal thing is, if that said cute guy starts to chat or ask me out, I find a way to decline...every time, even if I like him. I feel my anxiety will be a deal breaker to them. 😢

HootyTheNightOwl

@Coralmist That's something that you need to address within yourself.

Challenge yourself to go on at least one date with the guy. The worst that can happen is that you decide that it's a bust and you won't be dating again - the best thing that can happen is that you get a second date.

Your anxiety will only be a deal breaker if you let it... and, at this stage, we're not talking about sky diving or some extreme sport - just a coffee with a new friend. I'm sure that you can manage a coffee with a friend that you find attractive.