Sometimes I feel part alien, do you ever struggle with the humans?

I find many people struggle to "fit-in." Now, most people don't want to experience the effort of the struggle, so they simply conform even if at the expense of "higher values." It certainly can be tempting to cater to social norms; it's hard work to be an outsider. So, the question you must ask yourself, is avoiding the struggle worth it or do you think you can gain something worthwhile from the experience?

So, maybe being ladylike would not be such a bad thing... you know, within reason.