How do you forgive and forget?
Or forget and forgive? Or forgive? Or forget?
I still dream of stabbing some people right between the eyes and it's been years
I still dream of stabbing some people right between the eyes and it's been years
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Pretzel · 61-69, M
it doesn't happen if they apologize
it happens when you decide that the anger you carry isn't worth the energy.
whatever happened happened - you can't undo it
you can't forget it
but hatred and anger - unless you are right there in the room with them beating the over the head - is only experienced by you.
and so if you get to the point where you don't get any value for that anger - you let it go
you accept that it happened and they may or may not be sorry
you aren't being "the bigger person" - you are just using your energy for something that will bring you more joy.
I hope you find it.
it happens when you decide that the anger you carry isn't worth the energy.
whatever happened happened - you can't undo it
you can't forget it
but hatred and anger - unless you are right there in the room with them beating the over the head - is only experienced by you.
and so if you get to the point where you don't get any value for that anger - you let it go
you accept that it happened and they may or may not be sorry
you aren't being "the bigger person" - you are just using your energy for something that will bring you more joy.
I hope you find it.