Why do I suck at confrontation after it’s over?

I’m not sure why I do this but after I have to confront someone, which I’m the moment I feel I do really well, I beat myself up by practicing how I will react to them the next time. I feel like I’ve made an enemy and will have to set them straight all the time.it’s like I’m practicing my reaction to be prepared which puts me in a constant state of fight mode. I feel I have to be prepared to tear them down again. Instead I feel like I need to trust that in the moment, like all the other moments that I will be able to say and do what I need to in the moment. This constant state of feeling like I need to fight is really getting to me

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SW-User

Same, but with a difference, I don't like conflict and usually want things to be ok after, even if would be better to let them rest, i beat myself and overthink and question the conflicts themselves... Like i like "peace" 😐

Reflective · 36-40, M

@SW-User fair enough, and I usually do too but when the person or people does it repeatedly at work I feel like I need to set a solid boundary and beat it into them.