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Ive finally given up on her...

Shes been going in and out of my life for as long as I remember. This time I haven't heard from her in over 5 years but I still waited for her. She is the love of my life. I waited for the day she would finally love me. I see now that it will never happen. I'm just a tool to her. To use when it pleases her. I've had enough...

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BabyLonia · F

I think the clue is in that you have not heard from her in 5 years. She clearly has moved on, it is time you did the same. This is not about anything she has done , just you have been u able to let go.
We cannot guess what she did and did not feel but we can say that you must pick yourself up

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SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia she came back. She always comes back. I'm done

BabyLonia · F

@SolGryn but she was gone for 5 years.....are you telling me you did not move on at all in that time?

SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia no. I've always loved her and always will

BabyLonia · F

@SolGryn you can move on and still love someone

It is not healthy holding a candle for a memory for so long without looking ahead.

Did none of your friends tell you to.move on ?

SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia I dont have any friends

BabyLonia · F

@SolGryn how long were you together for?

SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia 15 years

BabyLonia · F

@SolGryn wait, how old are you?

SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia I'm 30

BabyLonia · F

@SolGryn I'm a little confused then, are you including the 5 years you did not hear from her as time you were together or did you start dating when you were 10?

SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia shes come in and out of my life since I was 15. I never stopped loving her from the beginning

BabyLonia · F

@SolGryn but you did not hear from her for the last 5 years?, so even though you have lived her for 15 years you have not been together for 15 years. There is a difference.
But still 10 years is a lo g time

SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia okay then

BabyLonia · F

@SolGryn why did you break up?

SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia she never loved me back

BabyLonia · F

@SolGryn and you have known that all along?

SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia yes.

BabyLonia · F

@SolGryn then 15 years is too long to have wasted on someone who does not feel the same way about you.

SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia she is the most perfectly amazing person that I've ever met

BabyLonia · F

@SolGryn I get that, but you cannot force someone to love you back.

SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia I never once tried. I have just waited for her

BabyLonia · F

@SolGryn which is not her fault.

Its sad that you have spent your time waiting for her. You should stop now and live your life for you

SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia I've tried. No one ever seems to touch my heart like she has

BabyLonia · F

@SolGryn which is why you need to let go,

SolGryn · 31-35, M

@BabyLonia I guess so...being alone will probably be better for me

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