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I need your advice

I try to put other people's happiness before mine. I have a friend who fell in love with me. Now texting him just makes me really uncomfortable just knowing that. I told him that I had to go and blocked him from messaging me.

So the question is, should I have just continued being his friend or was it best that I blocked him?
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Before you blocked him, you should have told him the truth. Being suddenly blocked or stonewalled is a bad experience, like having the rejection but having no idea why it happened. Just a couple of lines would've done it; "This is not right for me and it's making me uncomfortable. I don't care about this as much as you do and it wouldn't be right to continue and allow you to think otherwise."
Blessedsoul81 · 41-45, C
[c=#BF0080] You did what was best for YOU and that's okay. Its all we can ever do. There is no right or wrong answer from another's perspective. Only you had the answer and you responded in the way you thought best to respond! <3 Hope this helps![/c]
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Kinda skillfully avoided the obvious there !
What's the thing you're not saying ?
'Texting him makes you feel uncomfortable'. Why ? He's your friend !
You 'had to go and you blocked him !' seems a bit harsh don't you think ?
Can't deal with the whole...'Sorry i just don't feel the same way' conversation ? Or is there something more to it ?
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
O.k..............That's still three responses where you haven't [i]actually[/i] said 'I'm not interested !'
LilFoot · F
It's not going to change anything
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
ok. You don't like the attention...?
Is that because you are not looking for a relationship; or you wouldn't consider one with this guy in particular ?
SW-User
Breaking off contact was probably the best thing to do. Friendship with one-sided romantic attraction doesn't work well and keeping it up would probably have given him false hope.
goagainsttheflow · 26-30, F
I don't think you're ready for a relationship just yet if you blocked him.
LilFoot · F
I don't love him
goagainsttheflow · 26-30, F
@LilFoot: Then tell him! :D
krf336 · M
If he was ok that you werent interested and wasnt pressing you into being more, then being friends might have been ok.

But usually our first instinct is the right one. You werent comfortable with things and you have a right to think of yourself first.

If you had continued you might have felt less wierd and then started to head down a road that you dont really want to.
IsaiahIMS · 26-30, M
If it's making you feel uncomfortable then I thinks it's best you blocked him. Guys like him are normaly really clingy and desperate for any kind of relationship. But if you still wanna be his friend I suggest you wait a few weeks or month or two text him back and talk about it with him then. Hope this helps
Ready2LLL · 46-50, F
Some may think it's not nice to block and he may be upset but I really feel strongly about playing with people's feeling. I don't want mine played with, if someone's not interested they should just go if I want more, so if he wants more and can't be just friends then yes he should be blocked
fairone · F
There are to many factors, and your post did not contain enough facts. Was he harrassimg you. Or simply texting you to often for your liking?
LilFoot · F
Just texting to often. After he admitted to being in love he texts in a different way. Before it was just to make me laugh, now it's just clingy if that makes sense
multiversality · 56-60, F
Be honest with him and tell him how you really feel. If he can accept the truth and you both value the friendship enough, you might be able to get past the wierdness.
yllacsar · 46-50, M
Do what you need to....

 
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