Relationship hoppers....

I'll never understand how sometimes people can jump from one relationship to another?! Especially if there's children involved.
I mean surely (and especially if it was a long term relationship) you need to give yourself time to heal, be you and focus on what's important, which is the children!

How I see it anyway 🤷

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FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M

Everybody wants a turn-key (easy) relationship nobody wants to work on it very much.

Lanie78 · 46-50, F

@FloorGenAdm Thing is life just isn't like that. If you're not able to discuss the important things which could potentially damage a relationship then neither party are actually invested in the relationship.

RoxClymer · 41-45, M

I don't see how single moms of school-age kids ever get into relationships, much less relationship hop....
as a 40-something bachelor, never married, no kids I've done my share of dating single moms...Every single time 75% of the energy that normally goes into a relationship between 2 adults, Actually went into the relationship between the mother and her kids.
I said that to my mom (who raised my brother and I as a single parent) and she said to me "now you know why was single until you were in college"

SW-User

@RoxClymer that'd be the same if you were married with kids. You'd put your time into the kids as a couple, I'd hope. Why would you want it different if she's single and a mother. Maybe you can get to know the kids, if it's serious.

RoxClymer · 41-45, M

@SW-User that's kinda my point, it never got to the serious point, because of so little energy put into the relationship between her and I.

SW-User

@RoxClymer move on I suppose

smiler2012 · 61-69

{@laine78] yes you make a valid point the kids should always come first in any relationship . sometimes it is a case we make bad decisions with relationship and get it totally wrong . i do not think you can be too critical people move on but you are right it is the kids that get hurt most

Northwest · M

If they're dragging their kids along, that's extremely irresponsible parenting. People should give the relationship, a minimum of one year, before introducing the kids into the mix.

I've been on second dates, where women asked if they could bring their kids along. Didn't go on those second dates.

If they're on their own, and the other party understands, agrees and is enthusiastic about it, then there's nothing wrong with a human-on-human distraction from what could be a painful time.

SmileOnYourBrother

Because in todays world, relationships are all about sex. Nothing else matters.

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