How easily can people lose your trust?
“When you start to wonder whether you could trust someone or not, that is when you already know you don’t.”
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Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
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@Jeephikelove perfect
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FrozenWasteland · 61-69, M
I don't think I ever wonder about that. I either trust, or I don't. Not much room to wonder.
I trust people by default, virtually all of the time. I take what they say at face value and choose to believe the best about them.
When someone shows me that that trust was misplaced, it's gone, unless there is a very good explanation -- which doesn't happen often. I can still relate to the person, work with them, even care about them, but trust, once broken, rarely heals.
I trust people by default, virtually all of the time. I take what they say at face value and choose to believe the best about them.
When someone shows me that that trust was misplaced, it's gone, unless there is a very good explanation -- which doesn't happen often. I can still relate to the person, work with them, even care about them, but trust, once broken, rarely heals.
FrozenWasteland · 61-69, M
@CookieCrumbs I have no issues with second, and more, chances in most things. People make mistakes all the time -- Lord know I make more than my share -- and I hope I'm not judged solely on the basis of my worst moments.
But right or wrong, I consider my trust to be precious and if someone doesn't treat it that way, it's simply not something I'm willing to see debased.
But right or wrong, I consider my trust to be precious and if someone doesn't treat it that way, it's simply not something I'm willing to see debased.
CookieCrumbs · F
@FrozenWasteland
That’s what I mean. If people make mistakes that can be fixed, maybe a second chance is given.
But if trust is broken, I could continue to interact with the person , but I cannot let them in my life the same way as before. No second chances there.
That’s what I mean. If people make mistakes that can be fixed, maybe a second chance is given.
But if trust is broken, I could continue to interact with the person , but I cannot let them in my life the same way as before. No second chances there.
FrozenWasteland · 61-69, M
@CookieCrumbs I agree. Absolutely. There are mistakes that it is not possible to ever completely heal.
Sadly, I seem to have made a couple of those in my time. But I can only accept that there is no going back.
Sadly, I seem to have made a couple of those in my time. But I can only accept that there is no going back.
Magenta · F
My thoughts align with Angel's.
Of course I get that there should be a certain amount of it and there are situations where it is important. I just accept that we are all human and most everyone will breach.
I don't put a lot in the concept of trust. I just don't think a lot in terms of should I trust this person or not.
It's not something I worry about either way. I mostly see trust as expectations. Of course I get that there should be a certain amount of it and there are situations where it is important. I just accept that we are all human and most everyone will breach.
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Also i don't continue conversations with skeptical people. I don't feel the need to prove myself or the need to earn their trust. I am what i am on the face with no pretense. If it clicks it's good but if they keep doubting everything i say i have no patience for it . I don't face issues in RL
People connect easily. But online is different. I'm lucky i have some real good friends in RL
People connect easily. But online is different. I'm lucky i have some real good friends in RL
FrozenWasteland · 61-69, M
That's perfect, @CookieCrumbs . Exactly what I would say, were I more eloquent.
CookieCrumbs · F
@SW-User
I know what you mean.
What I’m trying to say is that we don’t have to be mean to those we don’t like… we can be respectful in co-existing with them (whether it is at work, in the family situations, or online).
I know what you mean.
What I’m trying to say is that we don’t have to be mean to those we don’t like… we can be respectful in co-existing with them (whether it is at work, in the family situations, or online).
SW-User
@CookieCrumbs true as long as they aren't mean to me it's cool. I always do leave them alone and move on.
Fluffybull · F
AllAboutLaffs · 80-89, M
CookieCrumbs · F
@AllAboutLaffs
It develops over time when you observe patterns of behaviour.
It develops over time when you observe patterns of behaviour.
AllAboutLaffs · 80-89, M
@CookieCrumbs Yup ... when it bubbles to the surface, there's doubt .... and when in doubt, don't
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
My ex lost my trust the day I found out she was pregnant in early 2017 but she already knew weeks before and told her best friends several weeks before she told me. That was the first clear signal I was being used as a sperm donor to get the baby she always wanted (she's 47 and our daughter is her first and only child) and source of money to support her lifestyle (via child support), and now I've successfully achieved court orders mandating time with my daughter for 28 percent care she hates me and will not be in any place in public with me when our daughter is present. I'm not even invited to my daughter's 5th birthday party next month with all her friends from daycare and their parents (ironic as I'll be on annual leave from my job then).
CookieCrumbs · F
@Viper
You’re a good one. :)
I think people who are careful to give their trust away take more time to discern if the next person is worth it.
And when the person earns that trust over time, chances of that person doing something that will ruin the hard earned trust will be close to impossible.
You’re a good one. :)
I think people who are careful to give their trust away take more time to discern if the next person is worth it.
And when the person earns that trust over time, chances of that person doing something that will ruin the hard earned trust will be close to impossible.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
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CookieCrumbs · F
@RogueLoner
Most people would. I learned the lesson from experience.
Most people would. I learned the lesson from experience.