You’re listening to the wrong people if they are saying that

Interesting. There was once upon a time where it was frowned upon for a man to show any kind of emotion. My father was raised that way and there are some people who still have that view. Times have definitely changed, though.

I've been in the opposite shoes where standing up for myself lead me yo be demonized and portrayed as an sggressive, threatening male with anger issues, no matter how gently I speak

Liars and deceivers come in all shapes and sizes

Some are men and some are women. Vast majority are enablers who choose to hurt the victim so the attacker does not do this to them. Evil people will collect and use all types of tactics to remain on top. Sometimes they act the victim when their aggressions are becoming too clear. In regular times, they're out with their gang scheming gang business.

If you wanna know why they can organize so amazingly, just excuse my French, but where there are buttholes, you know pieces of crap are not far away. Forgive the analogy

This reminds me of a song I was thinking about earlier today. The title is

"Man Smart, Woman Smarter"

humans are extremely complex

Raise above gender

Men are allowed to show anger, but they still cannot cry. Women are expected to cry. If they show anger, a lot of people don’t know how to react.

Yes it's absolutely ridiculous, especially when they are considered "real men"