Roundandroundwego · 61-69
@Philth there's a narcissism problem throughout the West. But it's okay to remain unhelpful if that's your thing!
Philth · 46-50, M
@Roundandroundwego a recent 'red flag' finger-pointy sort of person I'd unfortunately got to know was truly fascinating in that her FB profile stated she preferred the bear, but hey there she is on Bumble trying to get herself a man.
Yes, back to your post, she was a pretty negative person. Keen on telling me that any of my successes were due to my white male privilege.
Yes, back to your post, she was a pretty negative person. Keen on telling me that any of my successes were due to my white male privilege.
Luckylu · 61-69, F
I don't think that is the case. I think it is a mixed bag.
You can have a positive person and because of circumstances, has learned to be very cautious and have become aware of the red flags to be watchful of.
Some people have learned because of their environment growing up to have a negative outlook and try really hard to find anything positive in their world. They work hard on not being destructive but things can happen out of their control that shape a person in ways they work hard to not be shaped into.
I think positive people have just learned instinctively to avoid the negative. Just because they don't mention it doesn't mean they don't see it. There are also some people who appear quite positive to everyone around them but if you ever got a look deep inside their mind you would find something completely different.
There are some people who can see the red flags, and want to warn people to be careful. I have tried to see the best in everyone but in my life I have experienced those who take advantage (I'm being rather kind when I say that). I will warn people if I see them being sucked in.
There are certainly a few people as you describe but to try and classify as you have I feel is doing some people an injustice.
You can have a positive person and because of circumstances, has learned to be very cautious and have become aware of the red flags to be watchful of.
Some people have learned because of their environment growing up to have a negative outlook and try really hard to find anything positive in their world. They work hard on not being destructive but things can happen out of their control that shape a person in ways they work hard to not be shaped into.
I think positive people have just learned instinctively to avoid the negative. Just because they don't mention it doesn't mean they don't see it. There are also some people who appear quite positive to everyone around them but if you ever got a look deep inside their mind you would find something completely different.
There are some people who can see the red flags, and want to warn people to be careful. I have tried to see the best in everyone but in my life I have experienced those who take advantage (I'm being rather kind when I say that). I will warn people if I see them being sucked in.
There are certainly a few people as you describe but to try and classify as you have I feel is doing some people an injustice.
Therealsteve · 31-35, M
@Luckylu I see what you are saying. I suppose because of how extreme the people I'm thinking of are in what they ascribe as "red flags" and "narcissism", making up 90% of anything that comes out of their mouth, those sorts of people come to mind the most when I think of those terms. I was certainly thinking to myself, whilst making this post "you yourself know your time is limited and only spend time with people who want the best for you and have the means to help you achieve your goals" and yes I suppose I do try to avoid people red flags. However, you know the kind of people I mean - the problem is never their negative self, rather every person they've ever dated is a "narcissist", anyone with any success is this and that etc :D As with everything, their must be a regulation to find the right balance in judgment.
Mordechai · 31-35, M
So 1. It's often misuse of diagnostic language due to the normalisation of pop psychology
2. Genuine narcissists are actually rare, everyone displays "narcissistic" behaviours sometimes, it's about consistency, clusters of behaviour, and the underlying reasons for it.
3. People are most vulnerable in relationships, attachment styles and communication issues come out more and people think the worst of eachother eg. Everyone's ex is "a narcissist" because they seemed very selfish and left them feeling hurt.
2. Genuine narcissists are actually rare, everyone displays "narcissistic" behaviours sometimes, it's about consistency, clusters of behaviour, and the underlying reasons for it.
3. People are most vulnerable in relationships, attachment styles and communication issues come out more and people think the worst of eachother eg. Everyone's ex is "a narcissist" because they seemed very selfish and left them feeling hurt.
Therealsteve · 31-35, M
@Mordechai It's good to finally see someone of whom is honest and logical in this area. What you said is true (I am actually a mental health professional) and it's great that you didn't jump on the bandwagon of "but but my ex's REALLY were narcissists". It's a rare, neurodevelopmental and sociobiological condition, and it's weird that despite making up less than 5% of the population, everyone and their mother apparently is one. It's a good way for people to devalue others - even their achievements make them a bad person because now they are a "narcissist".
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
Therealsteve · 31-35, M
@whowasthatmaskedman "Consumer culture"?
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@Therealsteve Modern consumerism. Where the media and advertising tell you how to be perfect by buying their product, with the celebrity endorsement..😷
Therealsteve · 31-35, M
@LadyGrace You know who I personally was talking about to be able to be so sure of their diagnosis or what they experienced?
@Therealsteve I was speaking in general.
Therealsteve · 31-35, M
@LadyGrace What do you mean by "in general"?
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Jackrules · 56-60
They are prone to seeing the worst in others.
The reason people struggle with mental health is due to how they see the world around them.
They are Karen themselves.
Those who are happy and content simply breeze through life and recognize the positive aspects. They exhibit confidence and good qualities, and there is no space for worthless thinking.
The reason people struggle with mental health is due to how they see the world around them.
They are Karen themselves.
Those who are happy and content simply breeze through life and recognize the positive aspects. They exhibit confidence and good qualities, and there is no space for worthless thinking.
Roundandroundwego · 61-69
Yes. You're projecting. What or who is getting your protection from review?