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It happened again; I've been asked about my child's/children's ages. I'm not trying to start anything, I'm just putting it out there. I'm childfree. If I were insane to go through that s*** or even adopt, absolutely no one will know, especially random people on the internet.

Why are we even asking strangers that? It's weird

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FlowersInHerHair · F

I used to be asked that all the time. Especially when I visited a new church. First they wanted to know how old my children were (don't have any) then they would ask where my husband was (was single then my hubs doesn’t go to church).

Basically, they didn’t know where to “put” me. People can’t relate to childless people. It makes them uncomfortable because that’s the only reference they have.

HoeBag · 46-50, F

@FlowersInHerHair

I used to be asked that all the time. Especially when I visited a new church.

That is just WE-IRD.

HOPEfully it was women asking and not middle age men.

dirge

I can sorta see it both ways. it's be very weird as a intro topic, but being a parent is such a big part of many people's lives. sometimes I think a little too much... I remember a car I saw once with a personalized tag of 'TREVORSMOM' or something... and all I could think was 'wow. it seems like you're basing your identity on your kids. that's awful.'