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I hate France so much.

It's so annoying, I get it I don't understand French but it wasn't my choice to come here, the military made me.

But I don't think I've been to a single place where I haven't been yelled at in a language I don't understand for reasons I couldn't even guess.

98% of French I've interacted with came off so passive aggressive as if they're disgusted with me.

The roads are terrifying. You'll be nonstop passed by for no reason even if you're going 80 mph, Honking is illegal but you'll randomly get bright lighted for no reason.

And the roads are soooo small. You feel that you'll either crash into a car or smash the side of a building.

The house is nice but I'm scared to leave it ever because I'm scared to be judged and I have no idea where to go or what to do.
carpediem · 61-69, M
I've only been to France twice. Both times were in Paris and both times were for business reasons. I was treated incredibly well each time. Perhaps only one person, a waiter, was ever rude. I asked for a new waiter and tipped at 30% just as a "screw you" to the rude guy. Otherwise, everyone was pleasant, respectful and spoke English when they knew I didn't speak French.
sree251 · 41-45, M
@carpediem How was he rude to you? It's strange for that to happen in a French restaurant of all places. They do look down on Americans.
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ArishMell · 70-79, M
Narrow roads? I suppose so in a few very rural areas, especially in mountainous areas where building them was difficult and costly. Otherwise in quite a number of very pleasant holidays in France over the years,with groups of friends, I found most of the ordinary roads are at least a respectable two lanes wide. Hardly "narrow".

They have their equivalent of motorways (les Péages), mainly toll-roads (almost all of the UK's M-ways are toll-free), but not all of us used them. Outside of the large towns the traffic was usually quite light, too.


I think I have met only one rather chilly reception, when two of us had an evening meal in a small restaurant in the port town of Calais prior to catching the ferry home next morning. I think the problem was that this was something of a locals' ordinary eatery away from the masses of tourists and "booze-cruisers" (Britons going across the Channel on day-trips to buy lots of wine at lower than home costs). I can understand that as I live in an area with several seaside resorts and worse, second-homes. The staff were civil but rather cold towards us.

Otherwise my friends and I were generally welcome, and very much because we respected the locals and their way of life, we used their cafes and shops, and we always tried to speak whatever fractured French most of us could only remember from school lessons in the language.

Which to be honest had not encouraged me because it seemed all very formal, Irregular Verbs and trying to remember any noun's gender. (They were m, f or neuter, but these days...)

I don't know if the area helps. We were well away from the big cities and nowhere near the seaside and ski-ing resorts, but in places where the majority of the other tourists were French.

One friend had a rather frosty reception once when trying to ask a farmer for directions. The Frenchman thought we were German thanks to the enquirer's Northern English accent! Once he realised we were all English he was really friendly and helpful.


Similarly on holidays in Norway, where I found most younger people speak English at least passably - but they still genuinely appreciate it when you remember your Venglist og Tewsen Takk ( = S'il Vous Plâit et Merci Beaucoup).
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M

Just picture the Cheese Eating Surrender Monkeys this way
CestManan · 46-50, F
@HoraceGreenley That is how they look in Horace's most intimate fantasies.
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
I like French women. At least in WWII, when the Americans showed up, French women had the opportunity to sleep with a winner.
Time to storm the Bastille….
Where you were from before you come complaining about a country? It's a small nuisance to ask. Now I only have Quebec-French to really understand upon, have you met the English, they are teaching French in English classes about passive aggressiveness?
darkmere1983 · 46-50, M
france was great in the 1980s, we stayed there many times, times have changed though and paris no longer looks like a french city.
helenS · 36-40, F
@darkmere1983 I was in Paris last summer, and it was still Paris.
sree251 · 41-45, M
paris no longer looks like a french city.

Quite right. I stopped going there when it lost its "frenchness". Such a pity. It's flooded with migrants.
TakeCare87 · 36-40, M
Tell them to eat cake, they like being talked down to like that
Nimbus · M
Fully understandable and justified.
swandfriends · 41-45, F
I've only been there once, actually in a month it will be 30 years ago! I didn't care much for it either. I was only there a couple days. Part of our school's Europe trip. I did notice right when we got on this ferry to take to France, one worker on that boat was rude. I noticed in London, there were some teens making fun of us.
Really · 80-89, M
You haven't disclosed your nationality. If you're overseas wearing the uniform of a foreign power, reactions will often be less than friendly. What decided you to join the military?
CestManan · 46-50, F
Now why then are they judging you?
What city are you staying in? Is it Paris?

People I have talked to who live in France do not seem to have a high opinion of Paris. It is probably stressful because too many tourists and people in general.
I have never been to France but would like to. Probably not Paris though.

What is funny is a lot of French would love to visit New York. Meanwhile as an American I am thinking, "I wouldn't go to New York if it were the last city on Earth".

I think Americans are every bit as bad, we just show our discontent in different ways than the French.
4meAndyou · F
When you can't leave, and the people are horrible, concentrate on the history and the scenery. If you get any spare time, visit old chateaux, or take a day trip to a winery, or explore cheese shops. I've heard you can find some awesome cheese in France.

Learn ONE phrase in French. "Je ne parle pas Francais." Use it, and smile often. It might help with the hostile populace.
Lostpoet · M
🥺They are more scared of us than we are of them
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
I haven’t been but I think that if you begin to learn the language and culture you will find it will become much easier
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
@Jenny1234 Yes the appreciate if you try to speak French, if you don't even try, they judge you harshly.
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
All my wife and I said to each other in Europe driving is "you're gonna smash into the curb" lol We just weren't used to the narrow roads.
Catzgano · 31-35, F
You can’t quit the foreign legion
eMortal · M
Why are you there? Work? Tourism?

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