My mother is a whore
She always played on her good looks. She only married my father for money. She is an idiot really. She is not capable of any deep conversation. She plays little kid to get her accepted
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4meAndyou · F
There comes a time in every child's life, (even adult children), when they discover that either their mother, their father, or perhaps even both, are not the models of perfection they had hoped, and the disillusionment is painful to see when parents topple from the child's pedestals.
My own mother was an abusive narcissist, was not very bright, but was cunning and manipulative. My father was judgemental, and something of a sexist in that he paid far more attention to his son than to his daughter.
We can remain locked in our disillusionment, or simply say to ourselves, "I was not lucky in the mother lottery." And then accept it, and move on. Sometimes, we can try to understand HOW the parent became that way...what were THEIR parents like, for example. Ultimately, complete understanding leads to forgiveness.
My own mother was an abusive narcissist, was not very bright, but was cunning and manipulative. My father was judgemental, and something of a sexist in that he paid far more attention to his son than to his daughter.
We can remain locked in our disillusionment, or simply say to ourselves, "I was not lucky in the mother lottery." And then accept it, and move on. Sometimes, we can try to understand HOW the parent became that way...what were THEIR parents like, for example. Ultimately, complete understanding leads to forgiveness.
4meAndyou · F
@revenant I am so sorry you have to deal with them again. When my mother passed away, the relief I felt was so enormous I thought I was going to begin floating above the ground. I hadn't realized, till then, the weight of her continual impositions on my life.
Keep trying those telephone numbers I gave you. You need to be in counseling, perhaps more than you know. Women's shelters provide counseling free of charge.
Keep trying those telephone numbers I gave you. You need to be in counseling, perhaps more than you know. Women's shelters provide counseling free of charge.
4meAndyou · F
@revenant Women whose marriages end while they have children, and who have to return to their dysfunctional childhood homes usually experience the same feelings. You need to hear the voice of an experienced counselor, who will give you the tools you need to build your own strengths. Don't dwell upon others, and their faults, because you can't fix them. Instead, think about how much you deserve your own, beautiful, peaceful independent life...strong, self sufficient. You don't need any of the people who now make you feel sick and weak.