She always played on her good looks. She only married my father for money. She is an idiot really. She is not capable of any deep conversation. She plays little kid to get her accepted
There comes a time in every child's life, (even adult children), when they discover that either their mother, their father, or perhaps even both, are not the models of perfection they had hoped, and the disillusionment is painful to see when parents topple from the child's pedestals.
My own mother was an abusive narcissist, was not very bright, but was cunning and manipulative. My father was judgemental, and something of a sexist in that he paid far more attention to his son than to his daughter.
We can remain locked in our disillusionment, or simply say to ourselves, "I was not lucky in the mother lottery." And then accept it, and move on. Sometimes, we can try to understand HOW the parent became that way...what were THEIR parents like, for example. Ultimately, complete understanding leads to forgiveness.
@4meAndyou you are so right . I do not know of any counsellor who does not peddle buzzwords and commie bullshit. I am living a really existential crisis now. Like death is very near.
@revenant Keep calling the telephone numbers I gave you. You need, first, to deal with leaving your husband in France and your children. Women's shelters are experts on that.
@4meAndyou my husband and kids are in Canada. I am in France now. My husband deported me in a way. The pain is so intense and the loneliness so great I want to kill myself some days
@revenant You don't have to be like her. You can have good values, love people, and love God more than money! You are a beautiful person. Respect her and love her so it will go well for you though, and God will bless you!