I feel like my future partner will also abuse or betray me 😣

I feel so hopeless and scared to date again but I want a partner.

I feel so bad right now .. i feel so lonely.

And my parents can't understand me. They seem to too busy only caring about their pride and what others think than me.

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Kuronekko · 41-45, F

Take your time, work on your self worth, or you will likely attract someone who sees your weaknesses and takes advantage. I say this as a person who has had more than one abusive relationship in her time. It can be very dangerous.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@Kuronekko but how to work on it? I am trying to love myself unconditionally but still I can't feel good enough.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@Kuronekko and also i can't feel hopeful about men... Idk how to trust me again.

Kuronekko · 41-45, F

@sahi81 It doesn't happen overnight. Listen to yourself, reflect on where your insecurities came from. Start thinking about what boundaries you need to put in place for your own wellbeing. Cast your net a bit wider than just finding a partner. Friends are very important so that you don't pile too much pressure onto your romantic relationships. Just start with small stuff like listening to how you're talking to yourself every day. Change that to more loving language, at first it feels fake and weird, but your words are important and your subconscious is always listening. Look for some hypnosis videos on youtube and listen before you sleep or even while you are asleep. Jason Stephenson is very good, I highly recommend you look up his stuff.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@Kuronekko my problem, even coming across one abusive man while dating is scary, i feel so scared.

Kuronekko · 41-45, F

@sahi81 Then step back from that whole thing for a while. You aren't ready, but you will be.