Have manners died on the internet, on sites like this?

I don’t know where the originators were from but like lots of American 🇺🇸 sites there are so many people who omit to introduce themselves when they make initial contact and for someone brought up with manners I find it a little off-putting, I don’t know why!

Giving your name will not betray any sense of anonymity it that is what you seek here, but it helps good people to determine who they are or what they are speaking to. Common decency is a great tool to break barriers and appear civilised in the community here.

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ViciDraco · 36-40, M

Hmm, I have never considered anything of that nature. I am somewhat of an internet old guard though. To me, expecting introductions with first names and using them casually online is considered bad manners.

To me, providing a first name on initial contact is very unusual. Names are something that get exchanged when you decide to take things further than simple internet correspondence. I started using the internet art a time where screen names were the norm. The name you see as the forum poster or the chat participant IS the identity of the person you are speaking to. And trying to dig into IRL without some established bond is seen as rude.

So it may not be that people are discourteous, but that we are operating on different expectations of courtesy on the internet.