Poppies · 61-69, F
When you were venting, were you complaining about her son? My daughter-in-law used to complain to me about my son, and I really had nothing to say about her complaints. But she really was doing more than venting. It was like she wanted me to "fix" everything she thought was wrong with him. My attitude was, "He's an adult now, I did the best I could, and my job is now over. He is what he is and if you didn't want this version of him, you should have married a different person. Your disagreements with him are none of my business." Not that I said all that, but I refused to be drawn into the middle of things. I certainly didn't respond with complaints of my own, though.
Wallflow3r · 31-35, F
@Poppies No our conversation was nothing like that. I have vented about him and with that she is good at listening actually cause she deals with similar things with his Dad and I never expect her to fix anything I just simply want someone to listen to me and hear me out without making it all about them.
froggtongue · M
You can point out a sort of etiquette to her right before you start up the next conversation with her. Something like, "It's it nice to have someone to talk to? I can share with you what's going on with me and then you can say what's going on with you."
See if that works. If not, just talk about your own self in between her sentences so you're having two different conversations.
See if that works. If not, just talk about your own self in between her sentences so you're having two different conversations.
Wallflow3r · 31-35, F
@froggtongue I have told her that I feel like she's the only person I can talk too but now thinking back on it.. that is kind of a lie. I see what you're saying but I don't like it when I am talking with someone and we're talking about two different things.. it's a pet peeve of mine, yet so many people do it. I just get quite and stop saying stuff, then end up just listening to them. Everything I've said just gets forgotten and the whole conversation just turns into it being about them which is fine but it seems to always be like that.
froggtongue · M
@Wallflow3r I get that. I think that's why many of us are here and social media platforms. It makes us feel like we're being listened to.
You can try finding other friends. Maybe you'll get lucky and make some good ones who'll listen more to you and treat you more equally.
You can try finding other friends. Maybe you'll get lucky and make some good ones who'll listen more to you and treat you more equally.
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Wallflow3r · 31-35, F
@beermeplease So true, she is literally the worst listener. I will not vent to her in the future anymore cause she just annoys me. This is why I don't talk about myself or go into detail about things..
maybe I just need to find a good listener. 💀
maybe I just need to find a good listener. 💀
beermeplease · M
@Wallflow3r anytime my friend...👂
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Wallflow3r · 31-35, F
@Donotfolowme 🤔
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
Why to get?
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Wallflow3r · 31-35, F
@Adogslife except he’s not toxic