I try venting to my mother in law about my feelings..

and she just changes the subject and starts talking about her toxic ex-husband.

Good stuff. 👍🏻

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You can point out a sort of etiquette to her right before you start up the next conversation with her. Something like, "It's it nice to have someone to talk to? I can share with you what's going on with me and then you can say what's going on with you."
See if that works. If not, just talk about your own self in between her sentences so you're having two different conversations.

Wallflow3r · 31-35, F

@froggtongue I have told her that I feel like she's the only person I can talk too but now thinking back on it.. that is kind of a lie. I see what you're saying but I don't like it when I am talking with someone and we're talking about two different things.. it's a pet peeve of mine, yet so many people do it. I just get quite and stop saying stuff, then end up just listening to them. Everything I've said just gets forgotten and the whole conversation just turns into it being about them which is fine but it seems to always be like that.

froggtongue · M

@Wallflow3r I get that. I think that's why many of us are here and social media platforms. It makes us feel like we're being listened to.
You can try finding other friends. Maybe you'll get lucky and make some good ones who'll listen more to you and treat you more equally.