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Have you ever tried to be/do something for someone only to be refused/avoided? Sometimes, our kind of help is not always desired.

I see this happen quite a few times. Rejected help. It's a thing.

It happened to me. It happened to other people too.

And I guess, there were also times when I myself rejected help offers from others, or when I myself did the avoiding.

People may have different reasons why they do it. Sometimes, they feel they don't need the help. Sometimes, the offering hand doesn't feel sincere. Sometimes, they just don't want to owe anybody anything. Sometimes, they are influenced by other people and won't accept the help because it will make them lose favor from another. For others, maybe pride? For some others, maybe it's a matter of principle? It is not easy to tell. Sometimes when people explain, they don't even tell the truth. Sometimes, they mean it. Sometimes, it's because they just don't realize the true reason behind.

In your own stories, what was the reason? How did it happen and how did you react to it? Were you the one whose help got rejected? Or were you the one who rejected another person's supposedly helping hand? What did you feel and what was your next step? Do you still maintain close relation with the other person? Did they lose your favor? Or did you lose theirs? Are you alright with how things are now?
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4meAndyou · F
Help not rejected, but resented. Members of my church and myself went into the home of a family with 12 children. They were living knee deep in unwashed clothing. Church members took the clothes to a laundromat, and folded them and returned about half of them. The remainder we stored in the church basement.

THEN the leader of our women's group told me that all the children had to use a filthy, moldy bathtub and shower. I told her I could clean anything, and I did. We took before and after pictures. I was VERY proud of the job I did, and the children thanked me personally.

BUT...Mom and Dad were PISSED. They went to the Bishop and complained that the leader of the women's group was all up in their private business. I could tell the Dad was pissed, because he never smiled at me once, or thanked me.