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Latest scammer? Or what?

Yes, it’s true. Every once in a while, I meet somebody that I just click with. And they live close enough to potentially arrange a face-to-face meeting. This latest girl was very interesting. And was enthusiastic to meet. We traded Personal phone numbers and have been communicating offsite for quite a while.

Recently, we decided to meet. With a winter storm canceling our first attempt, the second attempt she confirmed not just once, not just twice but three times that we were still on track. Hotel reservations, bookings for this and that, sent a her few gifts prior to our meeting her home address, flowers, etc. As the date got closer, she started disappearing unreachable for days at a time.

This is a girl that would text me every day multiple times a day. And then nothing. Completely off grid. And then she would come back with some weird excuse like her cell phone was broken and couldn’t get it fixed over the weekend. And then she would resume texting me every day multiple times a day. So I blew it off. And then it happened again, and then it happened a third time. So I questioned it, how can a phone keep breaking while we are in the final days prior to our meeting? But there was no response to the question. No reply to are you still on track. I’m stuck having sent gifts. Made reservations. And bookings that I cannot cancel.

This girl does not have the common courtesy to be truthful and honest. I even asked her are you seeing someone else? It’s OK if you are because we’re just getting to know each other and there’s no expectation of loyalty. Just honesty. She insisted she was not. Yet she kept going off the grid unexplained. After the third time, I suspect she was too ashamed to admit that perhaps she did have a boyfriend or was working two guys simultaneously. Who knows. Either way she wasn’t honest, accepted gifts and didn’t even have the common courtesy to tell me to cancel the reservations while I still could.

Guys, if you are communicating with this girl, please be aware. Be very, very limited on what you commit to and what you spend prior to your first meeting.

Girls if you’re reading this, I don’t ask for much. Just honesty and integrity. Let me know what you’re really doing so we understand what’s going on. Be honest about your situation. It’s OK, we don’t judge. That’s not what Similiar Worlds is about. It’s about meeting like-minded people, and then being honest about everything and then who knows what the future provides. But if you have to lie and deceive, then it reflects poorly on you. If you’re just here fantasizing with no intentions of hooking up in person, say so. Don’t lead a person on thinking there’s going to be a meeting that just never happens. Whatever the case is, honesty is everything.

Why do I make this public? I hope that men perhaps will learn from my mistake. And women reading this will realize how important honesty really is. The integrity that we have to carry with ourselves day and then day out when we look at ourselves in the mirror and say to ourselves, I am a person who… Ought to be positive about ourselves. If you’re looking at yourself in the mirror saying I’m a person who lies, cheats and scams, then you have some real work to do. There’s no room in society for that.

Who is this girl that refuses say what’s really going on?

32DDgirl
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4meAndyou · F
Well, Bert...if you haven't learned at your age NOT to send expensive gifts to total strangers...you should learn it now!
bert199 · 51-55, M
@4meAndyou I realize I’ve opened myself up to criticism. But many are missing the point. The main point is about truth and honesty. Not necessarily about the money lost. The money lost is nothing in the grand scheme of things. It’s the principle of honesty and integrity.
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bert199 · 51-55, M
@4meAndyou all right there’s no need to kick a guy while he’s down. I don’t mind constructive criticism. I don’t mind being supportive of one another on this platform. And pointing out where scams or misleading activity is taking place in an effort to help one another. But there’s no reason to insult me.
4meAndyou · F
@bert199 I'm in a mood...but I do apologize. Can I have the candy now? 🤣🤣🤣
WellFrog · 56-60, M
@bert199 All too often. especially when someone who is an eloquent wrier like yourself. those who take the time to respond have zeroed in on the wrong aspects of the narrative with unshakable laser focus. Then it is though that lens of misapprehension that they present their thoughts. Challenging this, attempting to correct expressed perceptions tends, in my own experience. to simply create a perceived personal attack.

Another lesson here is why back when I took the SATs in my youth, it immediately struck me that one section was " Reading and Comprehension". The "AND" be ones clearly something of a lost art as most today, be it in online forums or interoffice communication, fail miserably at catching the salient points and somehow latch on to some other element. Comprehension is, to our discredit as a society, a lost art.

I will offer a sole criticism based fully on your actual post, calling the woman out by her SW screenname plays rather self-serving given the level to which she gave you so much personal data like her phone number (something most guard online as vehemently as they might their Social Security number) suggests that your experience is a unique circumstance more than an emerging trend. You share at length the events that transpired couched as a cautionary tale, which is admirable. Publishing her screenname undermines your efforts. If she proved herself a gold digging scammer playing this out with dozens of men here on a daily basis, a by-name call out would play more admirable.
bert199 · 51-55, M
@WellFrog again missing the point of the post. It’s not about the money spent. I’ve said this over and over. Perhaps I need to rewrite the post and take less emphasis off the money spent. The money spent is disappointing, but not at the end of the world. The disappointment is the lack of honesty and transparency. That’s the only point of the post.