Lol. Well .. I've recently been told that's the "version" of me my soon-to-be ex is out telling people we know about. This while leaving out her affair, repeatedly quitting marriage counseling, and well over a decade of not being an engaged, accountable and trustworthy partner. In the end .. she got the "version" she brought out.
@BrandNewMan Yeah, my last fuck burned up a long time ago, too, but mine didn't have any pretty container or such an orderly burn. Lol. Sorry about that. From what you've said, that behavior doesnt surpise me. Your real friends already know the score and won't pay attention to her rambling. Her friends....does it really matter what they think?
@LadyBronte Years ago I read an article in a Baptist youth fellowship paper in a doctor’s office.
It stuck with me. The writer did a wonderful job talking about “Gentle Breakups” and cautioned young readers about breaking hearts and destroying trust. It warned that being untrustworthy, lying, cheating, etc., would leave wounds that might take decades to heal, if they ever did.
Maybe thirty years later,!t’s still one of the truest things I ever read.
@Mamapolo2016 It sounds like that article was a good one. And yes, gentle breakups should be the goal. Sadly some people don't care and hearts end up destroyed.
@LadyBronte All of them were justified to see me as a trauma. I was downright cruel. It was how I was raised. Then one day, after failing to "change" my gf at the time, out of pure exhaustion I decided to "Accept her for who she was, no exceptions." That became a pivotal point of change and years layer when I met my ex's or old friends who were women, the change of me for them is a shock.
I could comfortably explain my actions and regrets without wanting to take advantage or to be absolved, speaking only to offer a genuine feeling I wasn't capable of communicating when we were close.
Imagine it. Never being able to trust another person, communicate that feeling or properly address any small conflict or friction without hurting who you love through callous, dishonest, critical and controlling behaviour. I'm glad I escaped such an awful pattern. >.>
Depends on her as much as her man. Who knows, she could be drinking box wine till she can't stand up and wearing magic healing crystals around her neck while reaking of cat urin. This too happins.
