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Why is it so wrong to think negatively, even if it’s the truth??

I probably have what google calls cognitive distortion or a negativity bias which I know is bad but what if my negative thinking is the truth.. what am I supposed to do just lie to myself and be naive about things that people say and do..

It’s like the world wants me to lie to myself.. idk how to do that. 😭
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ViciDraco · 41-45, M Best Comment
A negativity bias or cognitive distortion is particularly about thinking things are worse than they really are. If things are really bad all of the time, then it's not a distortion or reality. It would be strange to expect someone who gets punched in the face everyday to develop a positive attitude about getting punched in the face.

But if that same person sees an act of kindness - such as someone giving a child some candy - and their first thoughts are that the child is going to get diabetes or be poisoned, then that is a distortion. Your mind is trying to find the negative angles of a positive action.

The reason it is problematic is that the human species is a social animal. If we see negativity everywhere we lose the ability to trust. If we lose the ability to trust, we grow more solitary and disconnected. That is a weakness in social animals. We're not built to function in solitude. Too much positivity also leads to issues as well though. So forcing positivity everywhere isn't really a good fix either. You need to be able to step back from situations and view them from both angles.
Wallflow3r · 31-35, F
@ViciDraco That is all true.

I do have trouble trusting others and creating relationships.. it’s just so hard to rewire the way my brain thinks..