You ever want to genuinely help someone out

Yup. It's using manipulation and playing head games. I quit helping a lot of people and started helping myself. I got tired of being everyone's backbone. I will admit however, I never expected anything in return, but for the person to grow and become responsible. Some did, but many stayed stagnant or tried playing the victim card to lure me into their web of narcissistic tendencies. I love saying no the first time they ask to see if they can respect my boundaries. Most people will fall off at the first no. I had one woman ask me for $80. I said, "No. I don't have $80." She got nasty and said, "I thought we were friends." I ended that situationship that day. I don't do manipulation or pity parties. Grow up and learn to respect someone when they tell you no. No is a one word sentence that has become my favorite sentence. Now, if some asks for a drink or food. I'll buy them a drink and meal if I can. Don't cast pearls before swine.