I Am Fascinated By Human Behavior

Why do people typically want to have kids? I'm guessing because they think they'll enjoy raising children, or in a lot of cases people have kids simply because they think it's a natural part of marriage. I don't count the people who have kids simply by accident. I honestly don't want to bring a child into this very hard,cruel world. Life sucks in a lot of ways. Why bring a child into it so they can suffer with you? Kids don't ask to be brought into this world so it seems very selfish to drag them into it so they can cope with life's harshness. And no life doesn't suck all the time. It does have its good points.

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Tatsumi · 31-35, M

You should read some Benetar. People usually have kids as a consequence of sex, rather than a planned decision. The onez thst do plan, tend to not have much thought put into it. Simply, "i desire". Or, as you say, "Its what you do." Its just a natural instinct. Like having the urge to fuck. Or eat. Or use heroin [I kid. Kind of]. It requires no reasoning or justification. What words did he use. Having children is such a natural part of existence, that most people simply do not think it requires a justification or a reason. Something like that.

For me, since i am a thinker, as you seem to be, I have never wanted kids. I have had the instinctual urge, but i will resist with my dying breath.

To me, as Benetar, having children is always an immoral act, as there is no benefit to existing over never having existed. So, having children is always doing those children a disservice. Sometimes an infinitely painful one: giving a person a life of endless suffering and pain. No. I will never. I hope i will never. I am a hardcore antinatalist. Like you, I would not inflict variable suffering onto a innocent being.

Im also for voluntary human extinction, via antinatalism. Everyone stops having kids; existing humans live out their lives, die out; and we suffer no longer.

Cloud7593 · 46-50, F

I also have no problem with voluntary human extinction. What's the benefit of continuing to have humans on the earth? Like you say, if everyone quit reproducing the suffering would be over. And yes I am a thinker. Few people seem to be.

Tatsumi · 31-35, M

@Cloud7593: Indeed; it seems so. It is easier and less painful to simply embrace the lie or ignore the truth.