How can I feel positive about men again after only having bad experiences with them

@HobNoblin u mean i am also like them?

@HobNoblin i think i settled for less bcuz I wasn't able to believe good men exists....

@HobNoblin where r men who have depth. How can I identify them

@HobNoblin I really don't want to think about bad men, i only want to think about and find good men

@sahi81 You might also want to consider no men at all. Personally I chose celibacy. I chose it because to me, sex and romantic entanglements are limited crude and predictable. I think there has to be something more than spending my time doing what stray animals do. I don't know if I'll discover anything, but I think the effort itself is something nobal and worthwhile.

@HobNoblin yes but i want to experience it once in my life .. bcuz I never been in long-term relationship before. I never got to experience it....

Everyone r different, i respect ur choice. I think it's good to try new things in life.

Tbh i don't care much about sex, I want romance....

@sahi81 I wanted all that too. The problem is that the entire thing evolved for the purpose of reproduction. Sex is mostly all it's about. That fact contaminates it. As they say, all is fair in love and war. The ulterior motives of selfish genes looking to survive and compete will ruin romance and love. Love is what you have for your friends. There are no other motivations involved. That love is pure.

@HobNoblin i don't think everyone enters a relationship just for sex Maybe people have other reasons for entering a relationship...

@sahi81 consciously maybe they do. But, underneath their instincts are working all the time. Take a step back. Look at what the whole thing is about.

@HobNoblin I have met men who only want a wife for sex and to serve them, not for love or romance.

@sahi81 There are no end of men like that. Typically low IQ. There are a lot of those around because they breed more. There's not a lot going in in their minds.

@HobNoblin lol, some of them were very smart but they seems like they only think of sex 24/7, nothing else grabs their interest in life.

@HobNoblin they r cheap in quality so they focus on quantity

@sahi81 They're probably shallow and childish.