Thrust · 56-60, M
Excellent!
Someone I knew had a similar journey. I guess he wanted to go out on top; he lost about 80 lbs, stopped drinking and thoroughly cleaned up his place. Then he hanged himself in Van Cortland Park (where the big meeting in The Warriors took place)
I didn't know him that well, but I did enjoy talking with him
Always good to encourage reaching out
Someone I knew had a similar journey. I guess he wanted to go out on top; he lost about 80 lbs, stopped drinking and thoroughly cleaned up his place. Then he hanged himself in Van Cortland Park (where the big meeting in The Warriors took place)
I didn't know him that well, but I did enjoy talking with him
Always good to encourage reaching out
being · 36-40, F
I'm sorry for the sweet guy... The way you describe him reminds me of a former housemate, he was in his 20s, had this perfect life, going to church... No suicide, just the profile.
I was an angry person back then, and an alcoholic at the time. Who knows, maybe I did assist him to somehow express something towards me that couldn't express in the rest of his perfect life.. Life is so strange isn't it?
I believe you are onto something there. Just, be a bit soft.. I understand you carry this momentum, from your recent separation, from Life itself, and how you really want to help.
I believe your momentum and your good intentions are a good combo and an inspiration :)
the best of luck!
I was an angry person back then, and an alcoholic at the time. Who knows, maybe I did assist him to somehow express something towards me that couldn't express in the rest of his perfect life.. Life is so strange isn't it?
I believe you are onto something there. Just, be a bit soft.. I understand you carry this momentum, from your recent separation, from Life itself, and how you really want to help.
I believe your momentum and your good intentions are a good combo and an inspiration :)
the best of luck!
HootyTheNightOwl · 41-45
One thing we can do, as a society, is challenge how we think about mental illness as a whole.
The people who are struggling with mental illness sometimes find that doing nothing is more preferable to obtaining the little help they can get (yes, it's not enough) because of the attitudes of the people around them.
I mean, who would be incentivised to get help if they know that people are going to disown them and discriminate against them because of whatever they have wrong with them???
We finally accept that it's racist to call people of colour certain names - yet, I can go out tomorrow and still hear discriminatory terms used to refer to people with disabilities and non physical health conditions. That needs to stop.
I dissociate... often in public - and the only reason I have been safe so far is because so little is known about dissociation and how to recognise it, so nobody really put much effort into thinking of slurs for me.
If things were different and mental health was more widely accepted and talked about, would it make life easier for me??? Sadly, I think not. This is why I haven't bothered to chase an official diagnosis. I'm happy to be thought of as the weirdo that randomly screams.
The people who are struggling with mental illness sometimes find that doing nothing is more preferable to obtaining the little help they can get (yes, it's not enough) because of the attitudes of the people around them.
I mean, who would be incentivised to get help if they know that people are going to disown them and discriminate against them because of whatever they have wrong with them???
We finally accept that it's racist to call people of colour certain names - yet, I can go out tomorrow and still hear discriminatory terms used to refer to people with disabilities and non physical health conditions. That needs to stop.
I dissociate... often in public - and the only reason I have been safe so far is because so little is known about dissociation and how to recognise it, so nobody really put much effort into thinking of slurs for me.
If things were different and mental health was more widely accepted and talked about, would it make life easier for me??? Sadly, I think not. This is why I haven't bothered to chase an official diagnosis. I'm happy to be thought of as the weirdo that randomly screams.
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
I am so sorry I know this feeling all too well. Wishing you were there or that you could have done something to prevent it. I used to be on Facebook, my phone number was on there because of work, new clients and coworkers. I had a Facebook friend who was raped and strangled because she took a ride from a stranger it was like 2am in the morning and I am always up at night I wish like hell she would have called me I would have picked her up. It haunted me for years because if she did she would still be alive. I should have been there. She posted begging for someone to help her but I never logged on and didn't see it.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
I hope you find out the real reasons why this happened. And not what some psychologist "THINKS" or "BELIEVES" what happened.
Many things are not obvious. And the obvious is the best any psychologist can give.
It requires indepth research into that person's life to know anything. Like only a non legal forensic psychologist can give.
Many things are not obvious. And the obvious is the best any psychologist can give.
It requires indepth research into that person's life to know anything. Like only a non legal forensic psychologist can give.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@DeWayfarer He's gone, so it doesn't really make a difference, unfortunately. A detailed forensic dive won't bring him back. But some of that behavior seems consistent with depression, hence my mission to bring people knowledge about it(and other issues). That's the real challenge, we may not be able to empathize with people who have these illnesses. But we can learn about them.
HootyTheNightOwl · 41-45
@Nick1 Unfortunately, helplines aren't always as good as they say they are on the glossy paper.
My experience has mirrored the experience of others (even internationally) who have used the helplines available.
A lot of the time, they are there to make you think... at a time when you physically don't have the capacity to think. That's like me asking you for a million knowing that you don't realistically have a million and can't reasonably be expected to acquire it even if you liquidate everything that you physically own.
My experience has mirrored the experience of others (even internationally) who have used the helplines available.
A lot of the time, they are there to make you think... at a time when you physically don't have the capacity to think. That's like me asking you for a million knowing that you don't realistically have a million and can't reasonably be expected to acquire it even if you liquidate everything that you physically own.
