How come those that had a lot of help are so (judge-mental) hard on someone that had to go through it alone?

Because they feel that they did it all by their own hard work. And in many cases they, in a way, are justified. They just forget that the opportunity to work hard at something that pays off is simply not available to everyone.

I worked hard to get good exam results at school and to get my degree and at work. At each stage the hard work paid off. But what made it all possible was that I attended a very good primary school that prepared me well for junior and senior high schools that were similarly supportive of not only the obviously academic but also those who found school difficult.

And then uni. That was so much easier in the UK in the 1970s than now because the state regarded a university education as an investment and paid not only tuition fees but a maintenance grant so that I never had to work while at uni at anything other than my studies and ended with a degree from a good uni and no debts. Anyone my age in the UK who looks back on a successful career should consider how much of their success was due to free further education.

Never kick a man when he’s down. One day it will be you on the ground .

Because they don't understand the process one goes through when they go it alone. They never had to and they often forget or take that helping hand for granted.

They take for granted how much support they had and they are very sheltered from the reality of doing things on your own. I meet people like this all the time. They're literally just ignorant lol I don't think it's malicious.

Insecurity and/or superiority complex.

Also the "Just World" Fallacy.

Cultural brainwashing, libertarian/neoliberal social Darwinist ideology, etc.

Some people like to think that they would be the superhero or exception if they were ever in a crisis.

You see it with people who say "If I were in a mass shooting, I would tackle the shooter and fight!"

Fact is, we don't know anything until we are in a situation ourselves and the fecal matter has impacted the air conditioning.

Bc they know they wouldnt be able to do it on their own therefore they know that person is better. Are they just jealous?

I thought it was the other way around but maybe I just think of all those people who want others to have a hard life because they had it hard themselves. Or they look down on some because they had to go through a very bumpy road while some other people had everything served on a silver platter.

I think there are judgmental people everywhere. I always found those who lectured me on being happy as a single person where the ones who had good relationships themselves. They get on my nerves, so I avoid people in general, now.

I don't think all people are like that.

In what aspects ?

Who specifically?

Are they? That's sad.