What do you say to someone who has suffered a personal tragedy like the death of a loved one?

I can never think of anything. I'm sorry seems so useless. Sometimes words are not enough or make things worse.

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When I lost my father at 23, I learned some things that I have always followed. What hurt me is when people would lie to me to make themselves feel better, or ignore my loss because they knew not what to say. Honesty is what I wanted, I appreciated that. I hated it when people would tell me that he was in a better place, that's not the truth, we don't know where we go after we leave here. I liked it when they would say, "I don't know what to say, I don't know how you feel, but I'd like to listen if you'd like to tell me about them." "My sincere condolences on your loss." These things are the truth.

DanielChristensen · 46-50, M

@dragonfly46 I'll think about this. Thank you

dragonfly46 · F

@DanielChristensen Sadly, I've dealt with a lot of loss. Choose your words carefully, be sincere, be honest.
We like talking about our loved ones, because everyone is afraid to bring them up. That because they died, they are no longer relevent.
Also, be there when everyone goes on with their lives, that's the hardest time.
You're welcome. Let me know if I can be of any further help.

JollyRoger · 70-79, M

@dragonfly46 I agree.... and don't be a stranger to the survivor.... call them after the funeral - take them out to coffee or something..... continue to be the friend to the survivor as you were to their loved one and reminisce with them.... It's SO important that the survivor feels their loved one was important to someone else besides them.