I’ve been lying to my boyfriend of 7 months about being a college graduate

I’ve been lying about having a masters degree. I don’t have any degrees but I am in school now. It has been eating me up and I know I have to confess.

I lied because I’m ashamed but having created this lie has only made things worse. I was afraid of being assumed to be a loser, stupid and I wanted to seem impressive but I’m not. He’s an incredible person, he’s honest and I admire the man he is. and I hate to think that I have ruined this opportunity of love.
I hope he can forgive me and we can continue our relationship but I have lied to him about being a virgin too when we first started dating. he already knows the truth about that.

I dont have any other reasoning for feeling the need to lie but to recognize that I am a coward for not accepting myself. I have trouble being honest when it comes to how I represent myself.

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VomitingWords

***Update***

Thank you to everyone who provided words of encouragement. I confessed my truth to him last night and it was embarrassing for sure but he didn’t make a big deal out of it. As always, he expressed kindness and reassured me that my having a degree or in this case, no degree would not change his feelings toward me as he knows me well enough to love me as a person. “You’re my girl, and you can tell me anything.” He followed by emphasizing that we are each on a different journey and success isn’t defined by a certificate, money or belongings but instead, by the love we give and are given.

I don’t know what I did to deserve this man but my God, he is a gift.

Convivial · 26-30, F

@VomitingWords enjoy him ;)

Ynotisay · M

@VomitingWords Appreciate that update. Glad it worked out. But I sure hope that means you will NEVER lie to him again. His response clearly came from someone with character. But that also means that if if you do it again he'll walk away and not turn back. As he should. That's how that works. Honesty is where it's at. Good luck.

black4white · 56-60, M

@VomitingWords Now you need to step up and stop with the lies and games...cuz you know you keep it up and he will be history. Glad you did the right thing and keep up the honesty.
does he know you are on here (SW) asking for advice?

Jenny1234 · 56-60, F

@VomitingWords that’s wonderful!

chuck7882 · 61-69, M

@VomitingWords he loves you for who you are. Don't ever change

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@VomitingWords he’s a keeper

sarahcupcake · 36-40, F

@VomitingWords well done yayyyyy..!!

SomeMichGuy · M

@VomitingWords Good for you! Didn't see the update!

WELL DONE! 😊😊😊