How Do You Feel About Catfish?

Catfishing is when someone sets up a fake online identity and uses it to trick and control others.

I pretty much assume everyone on SW is not who they say they are. As long as we're enjoying the conversation and you are not trying to control me, I have no need to find out if you are who you say you are. I feel like I am probably in the minority on this.

I am really me. It's 2024, there are a million ways to verify. I would have no problem setting up a video chat so someone could know that I'm me. But ten years ago, I was stuck in a straight relationship I couldn't be fully present in. I was overwhelmed and miserable. I needed an anonymous space where I could escape and pretend to be someone else. That became the catalyst for me figuring out who I really am.

So I get it. I have a TON of grace for people pretending to be someone they are not. But please don't confuse me playing along with thinking I believe you.

What do you think about SWeeps pretending to be someone they aren't?

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zonavar68 · 56-60, M

Online almost everyone has a mystery or several. Nobody is really who they claim to be.

Umile · 41-45, F

@zonavar68 Really? Can I exclude myself from tgat list ?

ShadowSister · 46-50, F

@zonavar68 Are you telling me you are not really Max Headroom?

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@ShadowSister No I am not, but my life feels very much like it's a permanent animation and/or holographic projection more than half the time, so it's an appropriate metaphor. Esp. because Max exists inside effectively a black box which is also a perfect metaphor for me in relation to dating/sex/romance/intimacy/relationships. 8-)

ShadowSister · 46-50, F

@zonavar68 I was never a huge fan of the character, but omg the show was fantastic. I bought it on DVD earlier this year, but have not had a chance to actually sit down and watch it yet.