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Why I hate catfish….

You have probably noticed that I have this thing about calling out catfish.

In 2014 one of my friends was talking to a guy she met online and they were in an online relationship. She seemed really happy. He was a good looking guy, they talked on the phone a lot. Anytime they were supposed to have a video call there was always a reason why he couldn’t. Something would come up, he wasn’t feeling well or would have to go into work. This went on for quite a long time.

She didn’t tell me that they hadn’t seen each other on video. It was about 18 months into their relationship and she was pretty upset that day. I asked her why and she told me what was going on.

I had watched the show catfish since it came out so I said we should see if we could try and find the pictures online. We did, we found them online.

She was really crushed by this. She confronted John about this and asked him why he would lie. He said he didn’t want her to know what he really looked like. Then that was it. He just disappeared and he was gone. She never found out who he really was, we knew he was a man. He sounded like a man but she was left broken hearted and with trust issues.

I would just hate to see someone else deceived that way.

What do you all think about catfish? That’s my experience with them.
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OhIsMe · 41-45, M
I have mixed feelings. I hate to give an 'it depends' answer, but there was a user on here a few years ago called Atalanta who admitted to using someone else's pictures then left the site or was chased away from it feeling quite ashamed of herself.

The thing is... she was great. She was always so kind and thoughtful in every interaction. She wasn't trying to start relationships or get money or be cruel to anyone, it started out as her being shy about her looks and as she built relationships it became a noose around her neck because she realised it was too late to tell people the pictures weren't her.

The problem with catfish like the one who hurt your friend is their intent. Both John and Atalanta were insecure about their own looks and chose to use a different avatar. One decided to make friends and be kind, the other decided to seek out love and continue to be deceitful while claiming to be caring.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@OhIsMe with your friend why didn’t she just have an account without pictures? It didn’t work in her favour because she left because of it. There are people here that don’t show themselves and don’t even show their gender and I appreciate their contributions.