I was catfished...with a twist [I Was Catfished]
I was very young, only 18, my first semester in college. I first met her cause she was online dating another guy I only knew online. We became friends when I was trying to help their relationship. Eventually they separated mutually and then I started talking to her more and more. A few months went by and I developed very intense feelings for her, but I always felt like there was something she wasn't telling me. 6 months later she finally confessed. Her age, race, name, and most of her background history was all totally fake.
Obviously, I was in total shock and didn't know how to take it. It took me about two days of thinking to realize that even though all those things were made up, the person I was falling in love with was the same. Her personality was the same. The things we enjoyed talking about, interests, everything that really mattered, she was the same person. So, I forgave her and told her I didn't care, I still loved her.
6 months after that I flew 2,500 miles to see her for the first time. Up till then, I never saw a picture of her. We had talked on the phone a lot, and described ourselves, but never sent pictures. I got to the airport, a 19 year old kid far far from home (pre cell phones) for the very first time, meeting someone I had no idea what they really looked like. She ended up being an hour late. I remember just sitting at the airport, very late at night (so hardly anyone was there). I went to where I thought we agreed to meet and waited, and waited, and walked around looking. As the crowds dwindled further, I found a bench and just sat down with my luggage having no clue what to do.
And then, an hour later, I saw her, the most beautiful girl I had ever seen in the world (cause I was in love). We hugged and I couldn't stop staring, my whole body was tingling and shaking with nervousness and excitement. Growing up in a small town in the west with no diversity, here I was falling in love with a black woman. We had an amazing 4 years together, that ended in tradgedy...but that's another story.
So, being catfished isn't always so bad =)
(BTW, she was late because she was also super nervous and couldn't decide what to wear...she felt horrible for making me wait, but it was worth it in the end! I should also add that she was catfishing cause she didn't want her real identity to be known (trying to be safe online) and was just playing this character for awhile before I met her. At some point, she started having feelings for me too, but didn't know how to tell me the truth.)
Obviously, I was in total shock and didn't know how to take it. It took me about two days of thinking to realize that even though all those things were made up, the person I was falling in love with was the same. Her personality was the same. The things we enjoyed talking about, interests, everything that really mattered, she was the same person. So, I forgave her and told her I didn't care, I still loved her.
6 months after that I flew 2,500 miles to see her for the first time. Up till then, I never saw a picture of her. We had talked on the phone a lot, and described ourselves, but never sent pictures. I got to the airport, a 19 year old kid far far from home (pre cell phones) for the very first time, meeting someone I had no idea what they really looked like. She ended up being an hour late. I remember just sitting at the airport, very late at night (so hardly anyone was there). I went to where I thought we agreed to meet and waited, and waited, and walked around looking. As the crowds dwindled further, I found a bench and just sat down with my luggage having no clue what to do.
And then, an hour later, I saw her, the most beautiful girl I had ever seen in the world (cause I was in love). We hugged and I couldn't stop staring, my whole body was tingling and shaking with nervousness and excitement. Growing up in a small town in the west with no diversity, here I was falling in love with a black woman. We had an amazing 4 years together, that ended in tradgedy...but that's another story.
So, being catfished isn't always so bad =)
(BTW, she was late because she was also super nervous and couldn't decide what to wear...she felt horrible for making me wait, but it was worth it in the end! I should also add that she was catfishing cause she didn't want her real identity to be known (trying to be safe online) and was just playing this character for awhile before I met her. At some point, she started having feelings for me too, but didn't know how to tell me the truth.)
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