Do you think its possible for someone to change their ways? Or is it all false promises until...

Have heard of the rare life-altering event that has changed people. Giving them a wake up call about their life and their attitude and that spawned a serious change. But others with personality disorders it just made them more self-centered about themselves. I don’t know what it would take for them to change, I think they’ve set themselves up for some serious falls and still don’t learn from it.

Mamapolo2016 · F

I think it's very possible for people to change. I also know I can't change them.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

Well I knew one older man at my job, he worked in a different department and would make lecherous remarks about the coeds. Never said anything respectful about women, had a dirty mind and dirty speech making innuendos all the time. He wouldn’t have gotten away with that now due to the sexual harassment policy. I avoided being near him & he was like this ever since I went to work there. Anyway he was diagnosed with a brain tumor and left to have surgery and came back with a few months. The difference in him was like night and day. He was no longer foul-minded towards women and spoke in a very thoughtful way. It made me think that the brain tumor might have had some type of effect on his personality as far as sexual thoughts.

Bexsy

Everyone has it in them to change I think. To an extent. But they have to want to.

wildbill83 · 36-40, M

Unless they're confronted with some life altering experience, no not really. Within someone's comfort zone, they might convince others that they've changed, but when the chips are down, they usually revert back to their "default" settings

vis-à-vis, fight or flight

legodood · M

Thoughtful comments so far on a thoughtful post
. 🌞 Yes, I also believe change is possible, although significant change for the better is nexer easy.

On a side note, it is good to see you posting again. 😊

SW-User

"Their ways" would indicate patterns or habits. Depends on age and how ingrained they are in them. Those are very hard to change, but possible. Promises mean nothing.

Fairydust · F

Depends what it is?
One thing I’ve learnt in life, people have to be ready to change, you can’t force it.

Some can’t change though. 🫤

bugeye · 26-30, F

someone can change but it takes time and effort.

that being said certain trauma or life events can stimulate a change in someone.

DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M

Depends on whether that person is saying yes just to stop the nagging on them or is truly trying.

Foxes · F

With some effort. Just because someone can change, doesn't mean they will.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

Yes, I do believe they can but the proof is in actions not words

WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F

Yes, if their actions show me as much

ViciDraco · 36-40, M

They have to actually want to change. And they have to want to change because they realize they do not like who they are.

If they say they will change in order to keep someone around they don't actually want to change they just to keep that person around. Their change will stop when they no longer feel in danger of losing that person and may even revert.

bijouxbroussard · F

It’s possible if the person [b]wants[/b] to badly enough. But not everyone is motivated to, especially if they’ve been able to get what they want without changing their ways.

SW-User

People can change if they commit to change and they put the work in. If people make no effort to change then they likely won't.

Zonuss · 41-45, M

It is possible. But most people do not change because they simply do not know how, or think that it is necessary.

Chickie · F

I don't believe people can change

Do you think its possible for someone to change their ways? Or is it all false promises until things finally break loose?