Why is loyalty so underrated?

Like I had a guy ask me today that he fell in love with his co-worker as he's married.

Then he claims that he wouldn't cheat on her? WTF? I told him to leave his wife then do whatever he pleased to do so.

But why is loyalty so hard? I was loyal and I got cheated on twice and one of my exes tried to cheat on her husband with me. I don't get it.

Is it that hard to be loyal?

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GeniUs · 56-60, M

Is it because love/lust is such a powerful emotion?
Is it because people are greedy and want 2 things which are supposedly exclusive (to the other) at the same time?
Is it because people don't want to gamble on losing what they have for something they perceive as better?
This is way more complicated than I first thought.

Nebula · 41-45, F

Yeah, it's really disappointing how disloyal many people are.

Jenny1234 · 56-60, F

I don’t know. I guess they are so selfish

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Might be asking yourself the wrong question. I think the real question is, “why are people so selfish? “Or “why are people so cowardice (avoiding)?”. Cheating always seems to come down to those why was he personality traits. When I steer clear of selfish and or avoidant people, I noticed that disloyalty becomes less of an issue because it’s not their nature to rationalize screwing people over.

bijouxbroussard · F

It shouldn’t be. But apparently it’s more than some people can manage. Not everyone, though.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@bijouxbroussard I agree.

It's not everyone's cup of tea. But one can be honest. Not being loyal is okay. You can call it quits and be the bigger person.

I'm actually high as we speak because I was loyal to end up with someone who cheated on me multiple times. It hurts. I wouldn't do that to someone. Watching my mother deal with a disloyal person, it broke my heart.

I chose to be alone than cheat. I can't. It hurts and I couldn't sleep. I wonder how these people even go on as if nothing ever happened.

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