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I need to tell this story. I FEEL LIKE MEN LOVE TO PICK on ME.

On this site I met a guy that acted nice and supportive when I told him that men online expect me to show myself when I’m uncomfortable. He agreed with me about not giving them anything that you don’t want. After a few days he gives me his number and email and Instagram saying he doesn’t like to chat with friends on SW. I wasn’t really comfortable with any of that because I’ve only known him for a week. Since I knew his Instagram and FB because he gave me that info it made him angry and he said that I’m supposed to add him on Instagram or FB because I saw his which isn’t fair because I didn’t ask him for information. Then he said just because you’re friendly with me doesn’t mean you’re my friend because friends don’t hide their info from each other. Fast forward he blocks me because I’m annoying and secretive. This is the reason why I’m not comfortable friending men online. It doesn’t turn out well. It angers me when I’m just trying to be a friend to these men and they turn me into a villain because they want me to expose my identity which would put me at great risk of being harassed by them and they’re not nice at all. AND in the end I feel that men online TREAT ME THE WORST because I’m KIND HEARTED and I’m SICK of IT.
WonderGirl · 41-45, F
Someone giving their personal information just after a few days? That's a red flag
Not exactly that way but when I tried to be his friend he acted cold because I’m secretive and he doesn’t like that. We argued a bit then he accused me of being a different SW member then blocked. [@498097,WonderGirl]
WonderGirl · 41-45, F
[@1230725,CallmeDestiny] He sounds paraniod.
True [@498097,WonderGirl]
Lillyth · 31-35, F
That's immature af and a major red flag. Let's not forget he can always give you fake fb/instagram profiles.

You should [b]NEVER [/b]do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable and feel guilty about when rejecting .

He's trying to manipulate you, and good you didn't fall for that.

A good person with good intentions, friend or whatever, will never rush you into anything, especially if you already clearly communicated that you're not comfortable.
Exactly, he was persistent from the beginning. I mean just because I told him that I saw his Facebook he flipped! He’s the one that gave me the information and then he starts insulting me. He actually pretended to be nice but that was short lived. [@1091266,Lillyth]
Lillyth · 31-35, F
[@1230725,CallmeDestiny] yeah, manipulator.
🤦🏻‍♀️[@1091266,Lillyth]
Leggs · 46-50, F
It was a Catfish. They are very quick to try to get one's personal info.

The reason catfish block those who are not falling for their BS is so they do not contact the same potential victims again.

When someone blocks you, they are doing you a favor.
[@1073121,Leggs] If he gets my info he can definitely make my life hell.
NewRaven · 51-55, F
I had someone on here (that I “knew” all of 1 day) tell me that I was too secretive because I wouldn’t tell him my daughter’s name. Said that made me look suspicious and fake and that he wasn’t going to talk to me, so he blocked me. I figured good riddance, leave my kids out of this perv.
Iamonfire666 · 36-40, F
[@362555,NewRaven] I had a guy ask me for my phone number 10 minutes in. Like WTF no!!!
NewRaven · 51-55, F
[@10165,Iamonfire666] wow. That seems too fast to me.
Iamonfire666 · 36-40, F
[@362555,NewRaven] exactly and I am not giving out personal info like that
Pretzel · 61-69, M
two rules
1) we like nudes
2) when in doubt - refer to rule #1

sorry you had that experience. - no I don't want you nudes - I can find all I want on the fetish sites when I'm in THAT mood.
SW User
[@15458,Pretzel] and what site would that be?
Dainbramadge · 51-55, M
You can't lump all guys together. You know this.
You don't need to feel bad about what happened.
Screw that loser. Laugh and move on.
If you want to know a secret .... Clowns are the most honest users here.
Just sayin'
Jeremi · 36-40, M
[@116327,Dainbramadge]
both
Dainbramadge · 51-55, M
[@1153131,Jeremi] Are we talking about the same site???
You are only as weak as you let someone make you.
Jeremi · 36-40, M
[@116327,Dainbramadge]
this is definitely true
Mktonght · 61-69, M
Very intelligent response, he obviously had some ulterior motives.
Yes trust and then verify and be patient, I have a number of female friends that I have met and developed "friendships" with, however it was actually months of chatting before we shared phone numbers etc and that was for a bible study we did together each day.
His motives were really confusing because we only knew each other for a week. [@8131,Mktonght]
WanderingThrough · 26-30, F
Unfortunately this kind of behaviour is so common here. People offer their personal information / photos and expect you to do the same. That’s not how it works. You’re entitled to your anonymity, please never forget that. I think it’s really wonderful when someone can meet people here who they are comfortable with sharing that information with, but that doesn’t always happen and usually not so fast.

You did the right thing. I’m sorry you encountered this person.
WanderingThrough · 26-30, F
[@1230725,CallmeDestiny] Absolutely! You never truly know. That can happen with anyone though.
It has happened to me. I was friends with a man my fathers age and he seemed trustworthy and kind. After a year he got mad at me for saying I won’t date a man his age so he took my profile pic of me in sunglasses and posted it on his profile. I had to report him. [@589136,WanderingThrough]
WanderingThrough · 26-30, F
[@1230725,CallmeDestiny] Wow, I’m sorry that happened. ❤️ I hope you have enough positivity here to keep you from being discouraged.
GovanDUNNY · 36-40, M
I never ask for personal info this isnt a dating site CD
Exactly !!! [@1202672,GovanDUNNY]
Iamonfire666 · 36-40, F

I think that guy has been in my inbox too. He is throwing red flags left and right. I understand because I come across a lot of men like this here.
There’s too many like that on here. [@10165,Iamonfire666]
Iamonfire666 · 36-40, F
[@1230725,CallmeDestiny] way too many. I am sorry you have had to deal with this.
Thanks, I’m sick of being treated like this by many men online. It’s never ending. [@10165,Iamonfire666]
That sounds suspicious I would not give out my information to this person
[@1230725,CallmeDestiny] yea it seems they was trying to manipulate you into giving them your information
He was by telling me that he cares for me knowing my online self for a week. 😄😅[@4018,ExperienceDLT]
[@1230725,CallmeDestiny] that is just a manipulation tactic don't let him fool you
Jeremi · 36-40, M
point that bastard out. now!

Jeremi · 36-40, M
[@1230725,CallmeDestiny]
I take it kinda personal when it happens to good people like you.
Awe thank you 😊 [@1153131,Jeremi]
Jeremi · 36-40, M
[@1230725,CallmeDestiny]
of course
Run forrest run. get away for the jerk and block him forever.
Exactly [@1229992,Spracer]
Adamski24 · 36-40, M
I'm the same I never give out my private information.
losthorizons · 51-55, M
He’s probably cat fishing you be careful
EuphoricTurtle · 36-40, M
I think the silver lining is that he pulled that crap on you after only a few days, that way you didn't end up wasting so much time on that carpet stain. Still sucks to have to go through that nevertheless, especially since you had previously discussed that.
You’re right, I’m lucky he showed his true self from the beginning. [@17323,EuphoricTurtle]
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
Dont give these people your information and don’t accept their sm accounts and phone numbers. Lots of them are psychopaths

Have your rl friends introduce you to a good guy
I never want to give anyone on this site information about me. I wouldn’t ever feel comfortable. These men have issues that’s why they’re lonely and looking for women online . [@1220692,Jenny1234]
nightjourney · 26-30, F
Is it who i think it is? 😑😀
I don’t like to be mistreated. He can be nice to others but mean to me, that’s not right. [@1226970,nightjourney] He may be nice to you and others but he wasn’t nice to me at all.
nightjourney · 26-30, F
[@1230725,CallmeDestiny] then make an alt account and tell him.
Never 😳[@1226970,nightjourney]
WonderGirl · 41-45, F
Yeah, annoying AF [@498097,WonderGirl]
losthorizons · 51-55, M
[@498097,WonderGirl] not me wonder
SW User
[@498097,WonderGirl] that’s not altogether fair!
MEGATRON · 18-21, M
I'LL FIND HIM AND PUNISH HIM.
Talk to gay men or women
I like gay men, they never are mean with me. [@25627,Selah]
SledgeHammer · 46-50, M
Well that's no good!
CakeByTheOcean · 26-30, F
Most men in the real world are not like this thankfully.

In fact most people online easily become bullies.
Exactly, they get pissy and act cold. [@1237081,Outfox]

 
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