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I hate texting

I don't want to text anymore. I don't want any good morning or goodnight messages. I find texting that lasts all day to be extremely exhausting. It makes me guess what the other person is trying to say, observe their energy, their reactions, any little change in their behavior... and I don't want that. I don't want all this drama. I want to live face to face. Don't want to feel under a lot of pressure. If you want me, come be with me. If you can't or we can't I just don't want to suffer. I don't want to guess or doubt. I just want a simple life

I used to text people all the time and was fine with it, but now I don't want to do that anymore because texting hasn't paid off. It just made me live in fantasy land and I want reality. I'm stronger in reality
Maybe this is because I've accumulated too many disappointments and now I'm weak, scared, unable to take much
I crave affection and everything but texting and guessing is torture and a waste of time

Is this normal ? Anyone out there like me ?
Renkon · 36-40, M
When it cones to communication I prefer texting only as a last resort. Too much time is consumed to even get a small idea across.

I would rather pick up the phone or go meet them in person . It reduces a lot misunderstandings. You need to hear or see the person to know the emotions behind their words.
@Renkon exactly !
SnailTeeth · 36-40
[quote]It makes me guess what the other person is trying to say, observe their energy, their reactions, any little change in their behavior[/quote]

It sounds like you're anxious that you misinterpreted the context of past text msgs, and you fear you're going to repeat these mistakes. So instead of painfully learning to grow and improve at this discipline, you're choosing to abandon texting. Which will only further entrench you in being isolated in that regard.

I think you really just need to pause and question the context of things more, before letting the reactive stress/anxiety drive your decision-making. And just be kinder/more patient with others and yourself.
SnailTeeth · 36-40
@nothereforpeople Especially be kinder with yourself. That's where kindness begins with everyone.

Habits of nice words start within.

No one's wrong, they just haven't found the way to make the bridge together.

If they are intentionally cruel, by all means run.

But I think if the world were mostly cruel just for the sake of cruelty, we wouldn't have so many selfles, hard-working people still hoping for a better tomorrow. And I don't think a manager wants to step on our heads to keep us under. I think they're just trying to reach the socket, to get the light to sit just right up there.

We all do our best. Calm and sure. Patiently.

Most organisms that impatiently and callously grow, are weeds and parasites.

Just be sure to sow seeds of gratitude in your heart, if you want to be happy and grateful every day of your life.

Make a habit of taking pause to sincerely appreciate the world, and enjoy that feeling.

That's what keeps us together.

Make a habit of accepting your sorrow, feeling it settle inside of you.

Behind your eyes.

In your heart.

Let it lie, you don't need to think about it.

Feelings have always existed within without physically hurting you.

Avoiding things doesn't work. Avoiding things is where pain originates.

Not being responsible, accountable, or taking charge in learning how to be.

Not controlling. Responsible. Accountable. Patient.

In whatever truth u manifest in this world

We can't be perfect every time, but it's good to make a habit of trying.

Just as it's good to make it a habit of knowing when to rest, regroup, rethink.

Sleep-deprivation and hunger can also have huge effects on our feelings.
AlyAngel · F
I'm the other way, I'd much rather just text all day then have to worry about talking on the phone.
jackson55 · M
@AlyAngel As long as it’s not text speak.
@AlyAngel I used to be like this too, but now I feel like I haven't been living enough (because of all the texting which felt like the most real of lives for the last 12-13 years of my life. I felt like I could only really be myself online...but now I think life is simpler if I just live it the way it is. Maybe one oof the signs of getting old, maybe because of trauma that came out of relationships in which we were constantly texting, maybe it's depression. I don't know
Rizz2k23 · 22-25, M
Phone calls seem really stressful, a lot of pressure to keep a conversation going when with texts not so much
I only text for brief messages ("I’m here" or "call me"). For an actual conversation I’d rather call.
originnone · 56-60, M
@bijouxbroussard I can type texts on my computer, which makes it more convenient. I send weekly updates to my kids on how their mom is doing, and it's nice for that...
Lilnonames · F
Good we won't text again

 
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