I Was On The 'Experience Project'

@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow Indeed.....many years ago! Sorry that I didn't add you to the small list, @PicturesOfABetterTomorrow, but I kinda forgot! How rude, eh? Especially since you were very wonderful to me, guiding me through some of the situations that I found on there..

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@AmberDuponte No worries. I get it. I really got a fair bit out of your friendship too. You helped me figure out some stuff in my life too. We may not talk as much these days but I do like to check in with you Sarah, and some of the others when i can. I am glad to see you thriving these days.

@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow Awwwwww.....Now, did I meet you via Sarah or visa versa? Can't remember all those years ago....

@AmberDuponte Pretty sure I met you first but it was not by much. Martika too for that matter. It got a bit complicated for a bit when things went sideways with her since I was on good terms with everyone.

@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow Ah...Cool. Yes...Martika. We don't talk much about her, shall we say? But...good that you keep contact with them all. That's between me and whoever, not you. Ok? I never thought ill of you because you still kept in contact with her. That's not being mature.

But...certainly glad that you and me still connect..

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@AmberDuponte I totally understand why, and I did even back then. I am so glad it didn't become an issue. Honestly I stayed in touch out of the hope I could nudge her in a direction that she would get her shit together. There is no undoing the past, but I always hoped she could come out the other side in a better place.

I have not heard from her in ages but last I talked with her she seemed serious about making a go of it. Looking back on it years in the rearview I think part of that was having had a family member go off the rails in a similar manner and it didn't end well.


But yeah. I am glad we are still in touch.

@AmberDuponte Oh absolutely. And I have no hopes or expectations there beyond that whether you two make peace or not you both end up better off even if it is living very separate lives.

With stuff like this it reminds me that I am not entirely cynical yet and a bit of the optimist still exists.

@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow Yes. It makes it a bit of a thing for my sister, obviously - we have to arrange to see her when M is not there, and I'd guess visa versa - but it is what it is. Sadly. We used to get on fabulously. Sadly, that'll never be the case again.

@AmberDuponte For sure. That does complicate things. But I also saw it as kind of like a relationship that ended badly. You sure as hell don't want to go back but you can still wish them well in someone else's life.

@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow Yes. I mean, her husband IS lovely...and the kids are alright....so I would like them to find happiness too, just not in my airspace.

@AmberDuponte Yeah. I found out that her husband and I are alot alike in some ways. She got me talking with him so I got his perspective on everything too.

I do worry that her kids end up going off the deep end trying to live up to the long shadow of their mum.

I just hope everyone finds some happiness and some measure of peace in their lives whatever that ends up looking like.