how do i improve my communication with people

i'm not good at communication and interacting in general and online, if someone messages me i leave it too long to reply, because i'm not good or confident in writing back, also i'm scared of rejection or writing something that comes over as ' too eager' then frightening the other person off? there's some good people on here who have reached out to me in the pms, but because i left it too long to reply...they gave up and moved on, then i feel regret, because i could of made a good friend.

and a good friend is what i need right now.

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Gipeswic · 61-69, FNew

I personally don't think it matters how long before anyone replies to a message as you have to remember that people have other things going on. There is no need to feel pressured in replying immediately anyway. Just get used to writing short messages to begin with and you will be able to write more as you gain more confidence. Making good friends takes time anyway.

nevergiveup · 61-69, M

@Gipeswic A lot of my friends on here are in other countrys so the time difference can be a problem. Some times its hours before they see my replies

peterlee · M

Try to find a common interest.

Don’t expect too much to start with.

Give them space, there maybe a lot going on in their lives, that they don’t want to open up with you.

Wiseacre · F

Are u willing or able to be a good friend in return? It can’t be one sided.

nudistsueaz · 61-69, F

Become a better listener....

dancingtongue · 80-89, M

@nudistsueaz Too few understand that communication begins with listening/reading, not talking/writing. Acknowledge you understand where they are coming from, whether you agree with it or not, without immediately judging them. Indicate what you feel you can contribute to the discussion, without doing a total, overwhelming dump of everything you know or feel on the subject. Then have patience, particularly online, since you don't know how frequently they come on, what time zone there are in.

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