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Nina's Blog - Friday 11th September 2026

Friday 11th September 2026, 08:23

Yesterday I received an email from my brother in law. Not saying anything important just relaying a few snippets of family information and saying

I thought I’d write to find out what news there is from you and the boys over there.

So here is my opportunity to send a picture or two showing what news there is from me.

But I'm so nervous I didn't even read the email until this morning. Not because I was worried about what it might contain but because I know I really must come out to him, and hence the rest of my in laws. I need to avoid making the mistake I made visiting my friend in France. Then I just turned up en femme partly because I had got so used to it that it didn't occur to me that it would be a shock but also because I didn't know how to bring up the subject.

I still don't know how to bring up the subject but this time I know I must. Mother in law is 92 so there's probably a funeral to attend in the not ever so distant future. I really can't go back to dressing male.

I'll put it off until this afternoon.

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Bonnie70 · 70-79, M

Yes you must darling
You are a fantastic gorgeous looking woman darlinxxxx

ninalanyon · 70-79, T

@Bonnie70 I know. I swore I'd send such an email months ago but just couldn't figure out how to get started. So having an email that I have to reply to is exactly what I need.

I'm still worried about what the reaction might be but I can't turn back.

Nina xx

Bonnie70 · 70-79, M

Morning darling
I would use a b c h I k
Tell him you have had the desire all your life
Stress the fact you loved your wife and never acted on your desires
Since your wife died you decided to act and come out
DONT mention the sexual aspect at all
Do your children know ?
Stress it's your life
I hope that helps
Bonnie xxx

ninalanyon · 70-79, T

@Bonnie70 Yes my children know. I came out to them August 2024, see

https://similarworlds.com/social/blogs/5091377-Ninas-Blog-Friday-30th-August-2024

Thank you, it does help.

Bonnie70 · 70-79, M

You must be yourself darling xxx

ninalanyon · 70-79, T

Saturday 12th September 2026, 08:34

Votes so far: @Bonnie70 @JSul3 @22Michelle @oldundieslover @Nyloncapes

Fractional votes for possibles and for so many out of a list.

In descending order

2.25 A
2.25 H
2.25 I
2.25 K
2.16 B
1.25 M
1.75 O
1.16 C
0.75 N
0.25 F
0.25 L
0.16 D
0.16 E
0.16 G
0.16 J

A and I are the same outfit so I'll just pick one. But which? Should I be alone or would including Sheila mean something?

Picking the Ulverston one where I am alone gives these four

B: France September 2025

H: South Coast May 2026

I: Ulverston Pride 4th July 2026

K: South Shields early August 2026

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ninalanyon · 70-79, T

Still prevaricating on what to send, what to say?

Of course! Procrastination is my middle name.

If not then maybe just don't send anything and stay partly in the closet.

Not an option. I'm never going back to male mode. The past almost decade has changed me so much and I feel so much more myself.

The problem I'm trying to solve just now is that one day I may have to meet my in laws again and I'd rather not be surprised by rejection because I surprise them by turning up en femme.

22Michelle · 70-79, T

@ninalanyon Well you have answered question one. Now you just have to write email and attach the pictures!

ninalanyon · 70-79, T

@22Michelle Counting votes because quantifying things is ingrained into me as a scientist and engineer. It doesn't mean that I'll take someone else's opinion over my own but it's good to get another opinion. And of course the fifteen pictures were already selected as my best guess at suitable images.

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ninalanyon · 70-79, T

Friday 11th September 2026, 12:58

In the Grilled Cheese café, Andover, having a chicken peri peri toasted cheese sandwich called The Castro.

ninalanyon · 70-79, T

Friday 11th September 2026, 17:59

I'm still dithering about the email. I want to send a few pictures because I think tat will be simler than trying to explain in words. But of course i am having trouble deciding which pictures. I've rejected most of them as they are a bit too overtly sexy. So I have chosen fifteen candidates. That's too many, I think I should attach just three or four.

So I'd like some help. I'd be grateful for any opinions on these pictures whether it is don't send it or do send it.

A: Ulverston Pride 4th July 2026

B: France September 2025

C: At home, early 2026

D: At home, early 2026

E: At home, early 2026

F: going for a walk near home early 2026

G: At home, early 2026

H: South Coast May 2026

I: Ulverston Pride 4th July 2026

J: 10th July 2026

K: South Shields early August 2026

L: South Shields early August 2026

M: Warminster early September 2026

N: Warminster early September 2026

O: Warminster early September 2026

JSul3 · 70-79

@ninalanyon Oh my ...only 3?

I.....M.....O.

22Michelle · 70-79, T

@ninalanyon I'd go B, H. K. possibly N and / or O. The pictures I've chosen are fairly low key, but show who you are. On the email I think I'd start with an apology - not for your dressing or sexuality, but that you didn't know with how you have realised and accepted this is you, how you need to lead your life. And tell them you're not going to get into details, but if they have any questions feel free to ask, you have taken time to understand yourself and how to talk to, to tell friends and family. And add you've attached some pictures that should explain much to them.
Hope this helps.
❤

ninalanyon · 70-79, T

@JSul3 @22Michelle Thank you both. It helps.

ninalanyon · 70-79, T

Friday 11th September 2026, 14:42

Charging my car at Fleet northbound.

I was only in Andover long enough to visit a couple of charity shops and have a light lunch, less than two hours. In that time two people expressed concern regarding my bare feet. The first was concerned that I might cut my feet on something. The second thought that my bare feet were a sign of something. They didn't articulate exactly what that something might be just said that they had noticed that I had no shoes and felt they should check that I was alright.

Anyone who actually properly looks at my feet should surely see that I am always barefoot because there are no tanlines and my toenails are painted.

JSul3 · 70-79

Sending you all good thoughts as you travel this road with relatives.

I wish I could say something profound....I can only wish you the very best and hope all goes well.

If it doesn't, take comfort in knowing that there are many who care and support you.

ninalanyon · 70-79, T

@JSul3 Thank you. I do take comfort in that, every day I am grateful for the good people I meet and those I most likely will never meet.

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