Friday 15th May 2026, 21:51
Well, it's been an interesting day.
After my visitor still hadn't shown up by about 15:30 I sent him a message saying that I felt I was bein messed around and that the meet was off.
About twenty minutes later I received a message saying he was in the car park, delayed because of "a bit of traffic". I replied that that was not good enough.
He replied that he'd been driving from some distance and hadn't been able to read or reply to my messages and went on to say it was ok if I didn't want to see him and that he'd wait in the car park until 16:00.
I replied:
I hate to disappoint people.
But I feel messed about.
You could have kept me better informed and sooner.
I'm sorry, I'm really just no longer in the mood, it wouldn't be fun for either of us.
Nina xx
He offered me a packet of Lindor chocolates. I didn't tell him but that made me smile a little. But I still felt put out so I replied
Thank you for the offer.
But no, I can't do it I'm just too upset with myself to say yes. I should have cancelled this meet when I saw that you weren't checking for messages on Fabguys.
Waiting for someone to answer, to turn up, to change times, it all uses up the day when I could be doing something else.
Nina xx
He replied saying sorry that he had made me feel that way and that he hadn't intended that and blamed meetings being extended.
So I replied
I understand now that it wasn't intentional but past, and recent, experience suggested otherwise.
Good communication and punctuality are important.
Nina xx
He wouldn't give up. Which alone would not be enough to wear me down. But he was more articulate than most of those who don't turn up, and he had actually turned up. He replied
You know we are within 5 meters of each other and we could be talking about this. We don't need intimacy but could at least have met each other.x
So I put on my coat and hat and went out to meet him.