In the Parler café about fifty metres from the Wilson. Having a large almond croissant and a middling mocha. Drinks here are served in handleless cups which I'm not fond of but otherwise it's a comfortable place.
The day started well with a visit from the man who recognized me in the gallery. Slightly rushed because he was sneaking an hour off work but satisfying nonetheless.
Today is my last full day in Cheltenham, off to Paignton for a few days tomorrow and then to Cornwall to spend a few days with my sister.
It can only be a few days because she has a hospital appointment next week. It wasn't until we spoke on MS Teams a couple of days ago that I understood that she has cancer. I've had to do a lot of reading between the lines because she talks as though I should know all about what has happened even though it is many months since we last spoke.
@ninalanyon It can feel odd why you feel you have to come out at all, and / or that it has to be done in some form of hierarchy. However, if this is how you feel you need to do it than that's how it is.
@22Michelle The thing is that I no longer wear male clothes so one day I will meet family or friends en femme. I'd just rather that it doesn't happen unexpectedly. Unexpectedly for me of course. I want to be sure I'm in the right frame of mind when it happens in case the reaction isn't as positive as I'd like so that I'm not caught off guard.
@ninalanyon I understand what you're saying. You can never know how you and other people might react to an unexpected meeting, and what might be said in the heat of the moment. Whatever your feelings on your right to dress as you wish, your sexuality etc., you don't want to thrust it on friends and family who may need some time to understand and accept you as you are. What may be said, and later regretted, in the heat of the moment may cause far larger rifts than the reality of how some people feel about Nina the person.
As I was strolling past the Wetherspoon in Cheltenham, just around the corner from the Wilson Gallery. A voice to might right and half a stride behind me said:
@ninalanyon I am getting very regular sex, but so far she's still unsure if she wants us to share some cock or watch as I get some? On the other hand she may remain unsure, unwilling to make that kind of decision. I'll just have to be satisfied wifh how it's going currently. The strapon might get worn out!
@22Michelle When it wears out you could point out that instead of replacing it would be cheaper, and less effort for her, to invite someone around with a natural one.
@ninalanyon I have made that point, and the fact that she may get a lot more pleasure out of the natural one. As I've said some of the conversations we have about inviting someone round are hard to believe, but so far it remains just conversation. Whether it will become reality before her brain issues make it unrealistic is impossible to predict.
