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I have to say something

I've been here for several years, and EP for years before that, and I have never posted anything for public viewing, but I feel that I have to now

In no culture I have ever heard of is any of what I am going to describe here right, not even close

I check my messages earlier this afternoon and see a new member who shares a few of my common interests, so I sent an introductory message and go back to playing yahtzee, a while later i check my messages and I have a response to the message I sent earlier

We talk for a bit and she is very respectful, using slr,or ma'am when needed and not being a mess

She found herself in a position where she needed help and I agreed to try to help her

She leaves the conversation without a word in the middle of the conversation and stays out of radio contact for over an hour (how rude is that?)

I ask what happened and I'm told she had to run somewhere for her kids or whatever, no apology, just assuming I am ok with all of this

We attempt to help her again, and are making progress, when she says I am too slow to help her and she is done and going to bed

I think before I respond, and when I do, im blocked!

For what?

Because you are not mature enough yet to have adult relationships that go both ways, give and take, etc?

You acted extremely juvenile and compounded it by blocking me, cutting off any chance I might have of finding out why you acted like you did, also making me feel like I was in the wrong here, when I clearly was not

Society keeps oking this kind of behavior, and pretty soon you could be shot for a perceived dirty look

You took the cowards way out, by eliminating any chance i had about being heard you really should be made to take a good, long look at yourself....I don't think you, or anyone else will like what they see....c'ya!
CestManan · 46-50, F
This forum is particularly infested with people who act childish and block for little to no reason.
The only one that was worse was meetme.

Around here, just try not to waste too much time on any one person or conversation. Also try not to hold anyone to too high a standard.

I think the reason some people block so fast is because it is one of their little ways of trying to get even with the world. People are a dime a dozen
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@Juvia I completely agree with you
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CestManan · 46-50, F
@Jeephikelove that is true but some people block for very Petty reasons.

For several reasons though, yes this forum is particularly toxic. Unfortunately this place can really taint a person's idea of what social media is.
She may have seen her having to explain her absence to you as a red flag. People have lives and your chastising her for being away without explaining herself to you, a virtual stranger, is a bit inappropriate and comes across as desperate.
sben4200 · 51-55, M
@Pinkstarburst Well said. I agree.
Tahitiangrandma · 61-69, F
@Pinkstarburst yes this what you say is true
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Tamara68 · 56-60, F
If you expect certain things from people on this site, you will be surely disappointed. You can protect yourself beforehand by not having expectations. That way, anything good that happens, is a bonus. And all the rest won't effect you.
Carissimi · 70-79, F
Hi. Haven’t seen you in a long time. Hope your life is going well. @Tamara68
Tamara68 · 56-60, F
@Carissimi it is, thanks 🙂
minxy · 46-50, F
"She leaves the conversation without a word in the middle of the conversation and stays out of radio contact for over an hour (how rude is that?)"

It's not rude at all. Life happens and life is much more important than some website on the internet.
Which is also why she didn't feel the need to apologize.

We? I thought it was just the two of you.
I'm not even going to ask why she'd need to call you Sir [b] and [/b] ma'am.

Mature, adult conversation was expected from her and yet here you are throwing a tantrum.
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
@minxy exactly
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
You were being catfished. She blocked you because she quickly figured out you wouldn't give her anything.

Blocking is their tracking system. They don't have to keep any lists of those that are susceptible or not. At 500 blocks they create another account and drop the current account. Never to even login again.

They play the numbers game. Quickly figure out who is susceptible and play them until they get ANYTHING. Then on to the next account. If nothing bites then they block. No lists needed. Quick and dirty.

This site could do something about this. And that is to limit the number of blocks on new accounts. If a new member blocks more than a hundred in a week then it's a catfish. Yet these catfish draw people into the site. So they don't want to limit them.

This has been going on ever since the site has began.
SW-User
@DeWayfarer I can easily see how a newbie who hasn't gotten the hang of the site could easily block 100 porn people and trolls in one week... You have to know about the filters and use them.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
@SW-User a bit more than that, yet filters are apart of it. It as well helps to look at profiles just to see how many posts were made before replying to anything. After a while you'll know who is legit or not.

Ignoring is a big part of process. I have yet to block anyone, even as a newbie seven years ago.

Once again, this particular problem was here even then.
Juvia · 18-21, F
[quote]I ask what happened and I'm told she had to run somewhere for her kids or whatever, no apology, just assuming I am ok with all of this
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No wonder she got fed up with u
Carissimi · 70-79, F
You’ve been here for years, and EP for years, and you really need to ask this question? Come on, you must have more sense than you are exhibiting here. 🤦‍♀️ Seems like you have learned nothing.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
This has happened to most of us. Did you read the book One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest? That about sums up SW
SW-User
@Jenny1234 yes, I just encountered a lunatic here. You just can’t trust anyone here especially men.
SW-User
@Jenny1234 When will you fly over my nest?
Tahitiangrandma · 61-69, F
Okay hun well I think 🤔 this is more than a bit of a overreaction completely. No one online owes anyone else anything. This isn't at all the same as real life not even slightly. Yes when I can and if I feel like it I might say oh gotta go been fun then maybe add well I have to go blah blah but in no way am I required and no one else is entitled to that. By your own logic we have a pm conversation going you asked me a question four days ago I answered four days ago still with no response. Well by what you say are you all those things you say about her? Or are you just busy not on here? I only bring it up to prove a point. I both don't care honestly and no that is not that big a deal. We will chat or not again period but living your life acting how you seem to be acting is a bit much bordering on stalker level honestly. You made a comment about her talking about going to do something or be with her kids? Really? Kids family etc is way more important than anything on some website that isn't real life. Now you can choose to be all hurt and offended Hun or you can get the point that this isn't that serious she didn't slight you quit being dramatic while complaining about hating people being dramatic and untrustworthy. I don't like being asked and don't explain myself to anyone just like her in all honesty and especially to someone online that you don't even honestly really know. Now this isn't in the same category as some rude weirdo doing weird rude stuff for no reason to you which happens alot. This was/is a woman who was online something happened with her kids she left because again that's both way more important and it's real life.
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Tahitiangrandma · 61-69, F
@Sleepingbeauty yes if course it is I don't see how you could think otherwise honestly what are you talking about please leave me alone now
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SW-User
Tempest in a teapot. You can't have the same expectations of anonymous strangers on a website such as this as you would of your friends. The person you were talking to has a right to come and go from this site as she pleases, without anyone's permission or any explanation.
OliRos · 18-21, F
This happens. Even in my few days here I have been blocked by some what I had best describe as "oversensitive individuals" who appeared to think that I should bend the whole of my life plan to meet their online needs. There's nothing you can do to satisfy the insecurities of these individuals. No doubt, blocking makes them feel important, in control.

Unfortunately, because they have blocked you, they will never read your response and never be made to think about their action.

Full disclosure: I have blocked a couple of extremely rude people.
Carissimi · 70-79, F
You are being catfished and scammed. I suppose you are too young to recognize this. You must not have expectations of anyone online. Heck! Even offline for that matter. @OliRos
OliRos · 18-21, F
@Carissimi [quote]You are being catfished and scammed[/quote]

If so, they are singularly inept and unsuccessful.

[quote]You must not have expectations of anyone online[/quote]

The only thing I expect is that there will always br someone who knows better.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@Heaturseat247

[quote] She found herself in a position where she needed help and I agreed to try to help her
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What do you mean help her? Like with money?

Also no one here is indebted to continuing on a conversation here with you. People have lives and while it may be nice if someone gives you a heads up that they have to leave, real life gets in the way.

I have children and if they need me I won’t think twice about going and if people have an issue with that then you can block me because they are far more important than any conversation here 🤷🏼‍♀️.
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
@iamonfire696 well said!
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@Jeephikelove Thank you. I don’t get why people think strangers owe them anything here.

I can see if you have developed a relationship but a new conversation 🙄
Ceci13 · 51-55, F
Oh yeah you seem highly rational 😜 nope not at all. No one online owes you anything. She said I gotta go deal with my kids or whatever. That's more than enough actually too much hell it could be I gotta go or something or absolutely nothing. No one here is your property no woman is owed to you. You aren't more important than her actual family. Honestly I'd do the same thing because you would deserve it. You also said some complete drivel about oh she didn't check with me to see how I feel about it,? Like what? Bit predator overtly stalker behavior some silence of the lambs type behavior honestly try decaf also maybe go outside get off the computer get some real life friendships and then don't stalk them
MissAAnzai · 18-21, F
Nobody cares, freak. Maybe if you did something other than want to abuse women, you might find this site more favorable
SW-User
Good read. I block alot. It means nothing. Use this place for you.
ArtieKat · M
All too common behaviour nowadays, unfortunately.
SW-User
Average SW user.
BeJeweled · F
And this is why I learned to not get close to dysfunctional people online. I spend about 5 minutes on here to reply to questions. That's it!
fakable · T
"Society keeps oking this kind of behavior, and pretty soon you could be shot for a perceived dirty look."

ahah

anyone can be killed for nothing or by mistake
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Justme264 · 70-79, M
I agree with your comments on this kind of discourtesy and level of self absorbtion..... quite boorish behaviour really in my view
Are you still going to discipline me I really need it. Please confirm with me date and time please.
Are you still going to discipline me. I really need it. Please confirm date and time with me please
You are absolutely right to be outraged by this inconsiderate behavior.
Heaturseat247 · 56-60, M
Yes, it is, unfortunately
@Heaturseat247 this is Veronica my old account that I talked to you on was hacked hopefully not this on please message me so we can finalize things
Message me please i have some questions for you
Veronica here please message me
How old? 18 - 21?
Renaci · 36-40
The only person I know of that constantly uses sir and ma'am on here is a catfish. But you really don't sound any better throwing a tantrum for not getting attention exactly when you want it.
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@MissDarcey why does she deserve a spanking she did nothing wrong

 
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