Assuming you were single, unattached…

Would you be willing to get involved with someone who couldn’t (or didn’t want to) be seen with you in public ? Even if you liked the person, would you consider them worth it ?

I’m acquainted with a person who’s sneaking around with someone. I’m not saying anything to her about it, but I know I couldn’t do it, for a number of reasons. 🙁

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zonavar68 · 56-60, M

Umm a single person is by default unattached. 8-) But moving on...

With my second ex I used to have a big problem being confident to want to be in public with her because of her negative attitude towards me after we began living together. Until we did, things were great and dates were really lovely and perhaps living apart prevented me seeing her true traits.

Once living togther she would rarely if ever dress up for me - only ever to impress others (mostly her female medical professional friends) which made being social with her 'circle' awkward. Sex was always only about her pleasure once we lived together - it was like I was just a handbag to be trotted out now and then. Soon after we moved in together she stopped being openly flirty and intimate and even baths/showers became exclusive 1-person things.

I have always had huge social phobia issues but a lover is supposed to make you feel comfortable, happy and want to be with them in all circumstances. For a really long time I have not felt that.

bijouxbroussard · F

@zonavar68 There are plenty of unmarried people who are nonetheless in committed relationships. I was referring to that. And I agree, in a good relationship the person wants to be with you in all circumstances.