@Lilliesandlight that's okay too. I was butthurt and lonely a long time and the best thing for me was to let it go.

@GohantheThird thank you. I keep my mind open to the possibility. Someone along for the ride sounds wonderful. I'm lucky I get to be a mom too, so there's no rush. Trying seems to bring me a type of person who makes life harder.

@MarbleMarvel the right person won't make you try. It's good to focus on yourself and your kids, and seems to be the right move for now. Till then, stay open to possibilities.

@IamBack I know what you mean. I did that back and forth for many, many years. It's different now. I'm not trying to convince myself of anything, I have no longing, just a feeling of- maybe it'll happen to me one day. And I am SO happy for the space that I feel. My joy and creativity are coming back. The bad days are less and less. I'm highly content 😌

I wish the same for you. Seems like perhaps you are there or close.

@DoubleRings you could have a she-shack? Some kind of space to yourself?

I wouldn't live with someone again unless having our own spaces was arranged too.

@MarbleMarvel yeah but I’m prettty sure my hubby has adhd and doesnt understand “my space” or a she shack. Although I do have an art room….

@Bang5luts it's so much pressure

@MarbleMarvel it is so much pressure. Sometimes, sometimes it's worth it

@PhoenixPhail it feels so much better in a deeper place.

@SmoKin it's such a relief to not be in the middle of it!

@Justafantasy it's super weird