Is it a pattern?

Every single girl that i have had romantic interest or done something with always ends up being someone that has a fair deal of emotional baggage and trauma in their history. And it just does not end well, i seem to get shafted or get emotionally hurt in the process. It seems as thou i either attract these types of people or its just what fate has brought me.. Not sure what to make of it all. Maybe I look like a safe guy for these types and in some cases a great rebound for them in order to go back to others.

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sascha · F

Allow me to guess...

You were ignored by girls in school, and were never popular. Maybe, you have only recently began having romantic relationships. Due to your lack of popularity and success with girls during your teens and early twenties, you probably didn't have standards. This means that you dated girls who were looking to take advantage of your kind nature. You were eager to please and wanted to keep them. But, they are only looking to take advantage of you. This is what women do with men who are desperate to keep them.

MrWarfare94 · 26-30, M

@sascha no i woyld not say any of this. Just a fact about girl i have had in my life romantically so far. Thats it

PinkMoon · 26-30, F

When you see the first red flag leave. Weed them out early.

hunkalove · 61-69, M

Just give them your wallet and work on your stamp collection.

Flenflyys · 31-35, F

It could be a lot of things

MrWarfare94 · 26-30, M

@Flenflyys yeah honestly. Something ill have to keep my eye out for, in case it happenes again

OogieBoogie · F

You may also be attracted to traits that these types of people have.

I've found myself , that time and time again -.i end up in relationship ....and the same things go wrong.
I pick the same types over and over, even when I try not to. 🤷

swirlie · 31-35, F

[quote]It seems as thou i either attract these types of people or its just what fate has brought me.. [/quote]

You are actually attracting these types of people to yourself; you are not a victim of fate.

Life is not a random chance masquerade party we are all attending here. Every aspect of life we either consciously or unconsciously bring to ourselves or repel from ourselves.

You are unconsciously choosing to attract women with baggage TO yourself because you are attracted to their baggage more than you are attracted to the female herself. This is because their baggage reminds you of your own unresolved baggage because of their shared familiarity.

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swirlie · 31-35, F

@MrWarfare94
You wouldn't know if they did or if they didn't have baggage on a conscious level, but on an intuitive level, you would already know all about them. It's your own baggage in yourself that you also recognize in THEM, which is why you are attracted to them. You recognize in them what you can also see in yourself.

MrWarfare94 · 26-30, M

@swirlie how can i be intuitive about someone if i cant read the room, or if i have not met them yet.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@MrWarfare94

The word "intuitive" means that you already know something and that you don't actually have to learn it to know it. That means that you don't have to read the room, nor do you have to meet anyone in the room for you to already know who they are and what they're all about when you first encounter them.

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