Is it a pattern?

Every single girl that i have had romantic interest or done something with always ends up being someone that has a fair deal of emotional baggage and trauma in their history. And it just does not end well, i seem to get shafted or get emotionally hurt in the process. It seems as thou i either attract these types of people or its just what fate has brought me.. Not sure what to make of it all. Maybe I look like a safe guy for these types and in some cases a great rebound for them in order to go back to others.

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swirlie · 31-35, F

[quote]It seems as thou i either attract these types of people or its just what fate has brought me.. [/quote]

You are actually attracting these types of people to yourself; you are not a victim of fate.

Life is not a random chance masquerade party we are all attending here. Every aspect of life we either consciously or unconsciously bring to ourselves or repel from ourselves.

You are unconsciously choosing to attract women with baggage TO yourself because you are attracted to their baggage more than you are attracted to the female herself. This is because their baggage reminds you of your own unresolved baggage because of their shared familiarity.

MrWarfare94 · 26-30, M

@swirlie im not attracted to women that have baggage wtf lol im attracted to women that look nice and seem to have a good personality out of the gate. How the fuck would i know they have baggage before i meet them

swirlie · 31-35, F

@MrWarfare94
You wouldn't know if they did or if they didn't have baggage on a conscious level, but on an intuitive level, you would already know all about them. It's your own baggage in yourself that you also recognize in THEM, which is why you are attracted to them. You recognize in them what you can also see in yourself.

MrWarfare94 · 26-30, M

@swirlie how can i be intuitive about someone if i cant read the room, or if i have not met them yet.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@MrWarfare94

The word "intuitive" means that you already know something and that you don't actually have to learn it to know it. That means that you don't have to read the room, nor do you have to meet anyone in the room for you to already know who they are and what they're all about when you first encounter them.