happy with who I am and where I'm at

I am single and have been for a couple of years now.
Okay more than a couple.
I'm actually very happy with my relationship status.
I have never really felt defined by being in a relationship like some people do.
I finally found a woman that I trusted enough to have kids with but it was late in life. And when we divorced I didn't feel the need to replace her.
So overall the relationship did what it was supposed to do.
Now I have three wonderful children that are my world and that is all I am worried about as far as any relationships go.

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Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

I can totally understand that. I don’t think I would pursue a relationship never mind marriage again. Been there and done that. I don’t need a relationship to make me feel whole.

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

@Keepitsimple well I do have to add that things happen in our lives when we least expect them.
Before I had met my wife I had given up on meeting the right person and ever having kids.
Then out of the blue I met her.
We obviously didn't stay together forever but as that turns out it was okay.
Overall I think she is probably in a better position now than she was with me.

GrayJessie · 36-40, M

It sounds like you have a positive life outlook. I once thought opposite of what you do, but over time I learned the benefits of being single.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

That’s a very positive outlook

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

@WhateverWorks thank you I hope that is how I actually feel. You never can tell I may be deceiving myself and I'm really lonely and trying to compensate for that. LOL

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I suspect there’s probably an ebb and flow about it. That could be said for any of us though. Even when you’re in a relationship it’s not some synchronized swimming through life exercise lol @Dainbramadge

SW-User

Good for you 👍

helenS · 36-40, F

Your post is less positive than it sounds.

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

@helenS how so?

helenS · 36-40, F

@Dainbramadge You miss being in a relationship. You miss a smile, and a kiss, and a "How was you day?".

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

@helenS hmm. You do bring up a good point. You could be right and I may be in denial. But the actual post was about how I feel and if I'm in denial then I would still feel content in where I'm at.
Now another thing to think about is I am not 100% at the moment. I also don't think it would be fair to drag somebody into my life in the state that it's in at the moment. So that could be a factor also.
And as nasty as this is going to make me feel I don't think I could find somebody quite like my ex-wife ever again. So there is that also.
Well I guess there is a lot of things to consider when a person decides whether or not they are happy being single or they are just settling.

JustNik · 51-55, F

I’m happy for you! 🤗

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