Reminds me of women who show up to the delivery room with full make up, hair fresh out of the hairdresser, lot of jewelry and an expensive traditional

Dress.

One was even wearing a thong this one time.

People have their priorities all mixed.

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Sherlock · 26-30, F

I plan on being and looking at my worst as a loyalty test to a future hubby

Miram · 31-35, F

@Sherlock The weirdest part is that in Algeria their hubbies aren't allowed in maternity wards.

They do all of this for nothing but social performance

Miram · 31-35, F

@Sherlock also, grandma used to say whoever loves you will love you despite of your boogers dripping out of your nose and you licking it.

She and grandpa had a great epic relationship. He loved so much his entire life never ever betraying her or abandoning her. He always chose her over all else.

So she was probably right.

Sherlock · 26-30, F

@Miram they sound lovely 🥹 Grandma sounds intelligent!!

Younameit · F

On my turn I was just wanted to survive and make it out alive with my baby. It was exhausting

Miram · 31-35, F

@Younameit Yes, and they still bother because of society to go to the hairdresser during contractions.

It is rediculous.

Ferric67 · M

Women show up unnecessarily dolled up where I work too

Frostcloud · F

conditioned to believe that even in a state of emergency women are supposed to look their best

Miram · 31-35, F

@Frostcloud some of them ask us to keep their jewelery/gold safe.

The gold is usually something they acquired as a Mehr so it puts lot into perspective.

They value all of that more than their own lives. The problem isn't just how they were conditioned but also how they contribute themselves to the creation of these expectations.

And how it becomes set of postulates everyone accepts

SnickersDOM · M

sounds like the performative social ritual of going to church, just a place to be seen

is the actual child they are about to birth even anything more to them than just keeping up apperances among peers or perceived peers (strangers), just a fashion accessory?

maybe they are complex and I don't see every dimension from this brief glimpse into what you are witnessing, but they don't sound very loving, this sounds like the ugly specter of narcissism potentially darkening the maternity ward

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