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hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
Kpinkheartcrystals · 51-55, F
@hippyjoe1955 thank you, I like your thoughts on this! It's all too easy for me to compare myself to others, and it can become a very dangerous distraction!
SW-User
Why don't you talk to her about what you think, what you feel about working together?
Look, when I choose a massage therapist I need to feel that she is not fake and she is likeable. And the more important for me is to feel, that she thinks the same about me. I know that massaging is a professional relationship between the patient and the masseuse, without emotions, but for me it's easier to relax when I feel that we are not strangers.
So... I don't know where you live, and work and... but if you feel uncomfortable the place where you work right now, you should try to look for another employer or just start your own business.
Look, when I choose a massage therapist I need to feel that she is not fake and she is likeable. And the more important for me is to feel, that she thinks the same about me. I know that massaging is a professional relationship between the patient and the masseuse, without emotions, but for me it's easier to relax when I feel that we are not strangers.
So... I don't know where you live, and work and... but if you feel uncomfortable the place where you work right now, you should try to look for another employer or just start your own business.
Kpinkheartcrystals · 51-55, F
@SW-User Hi, and thank you for your reply. I agree with you on wanting a therapist to be professional, yet also authentic, and genuinely interested in me as a person and not only as a client. So yes, warmth and caring. I guess I should talk to this person, just to get to know her better. I kind of dread this though, because I feel like she finds me off-putting. My other co-workers and I get along well. I do genuinely care about all my clients. I know I take things too personally, sometimes.
SW-User
@Kpinkheartcrystals why don't you ask her to massage you and then you can talk during the massage?
Kpinkheartcrystals · 51-55, F
@SW-User honestly, no. I hate talking during a massage. It just ruins the whole massage for me, if I have to talk. I already worked through this. I know what the problem is, and I am working on it. Things I need to improve, and not reacting when other co-workers are rude. I have accepted that some of my clients switched over, and I am ok with it now.
Canicu69 · 70-79, M
You should 1. Ask her to give you a full service massage. 2. Everyone needs to agree that your clients are yours and theirs is theirs Why be in competition with one another. There is to much competition out there
Caramelwonder · 36-40, M
We are all works in progress taking our own journeys do your best to Get through we all need someone whether it is a therapist or a good friend