do you think late 40s is ' too late ' to catch up on what you have missed out on

basically i traveled a path less trodden in life, not many people have been through what i have....suffering mental health problems for the majority of my adult life, a lot of bad experiences with people and trauma too......i missed out on everything people take for granted, never found relationships...never had a partner.....spent the majority of my adult years on my own, feeling isolated and alienated from people.......lost touch with the friends from my youth, everything i've been through, i've been through ' alone' - with the only support my mum and dad, who are now elderly........i know no one who has been through what i have.

so now i am trying my hardest to put my past behind me, i have a personality disorder but have improved so much all by myself, i have better mental health support now....and now i'm nearly 48 years old.

i don't think i want for much out of life, just to find a partner, to find a connection with someone....which is what i always wanted, a steady relationship with a woman....i don't want nothing else as i have a roof over my head, income, the security basics i need...my mum and dad.....all that's missing is that special someone.

i'm trying my best to improve my situation but is it too late for me now?

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Bleak · 36-40, F

When I had been battling depression and facing severe mental health issues I would think the the same. And I was so wrong.
“not many people have been through what i have....” This statement carries lot of weight.

Because Everyone has their own story, and not every pain can be compared. Pain cannot be measured by the parameters of who suffers the most.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

Depends what you want to catch up on? What do you think you've missed out on?

I'm single, never been married, not travelled internationally since 1990's (when I was still single before kids happened), never bought a new new car, never had a threesome, and lots of other things, but the biggest thing I don't know is how to do the whole human adult interaction thing (sex, dating, intimacy, romance, etc.) as it's always felt like I don't understand it. I don't have friends, don't socialise, do shiftwork, am an introverted neuro-spicy 50+ man.

I don't pine over most of the stuff I've never done because I know I either can't afford or the opportunities won't come my way. Just like fulfilling mutually-enjoyable adult relationships where I feel like I 'belong' and am respected.

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@zonavar68 sorry to hear of your experiences in life, glad you found peace with it all though, thanks for your reply.

SW-User

Never too late, that's just a mind's structure.
If I have learnt one thing is that the world is extremely responsive.
Happy New Beginning, take smooth and aligned action.

Lostpoet · M

I don't think it's ever too late in fact I was thinking about writing a memoir titled, "Nobody Starts at Forty" And it's going to be about all the things I do at Forty kind of like a bucket list.

IronHamster · 56-60, M

Do it while you can, and maintain your health so you can do it again later.

BohoBabe · M

As long as you're in good health, it's not too late.

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